Hey Curtis, better delete this post before Duveyoung comes back with moral outrage and indignation. From: curtisdeltablues <curtisdeltabl...@yahoo.com> To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Sent: Wednesday, December 14, 2011 8:41 PM Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: SECOND Open [non-performance] Letter to Ravi Chivukula
Much appreciation to Steve and Obbajeeba for getting the intent behind my post and posting a defense for Robin's unflattering assumptions about me better than I could. I tried to write a post starting with defending the imaginative charge that I nefariously waited until Ravi posted out before responding, as if finding time to write here is all a calculated thing based on a fear of Ravi posting back. But your combined kindness freed me from having to wade through another long defensive post. I have whittled it down to this: Addressing Robin directly, your unflattering characterization turned two guys tweaking each other while having fun writing in the context of knowing each other through posting here a long time, into some contrived big deal. My post had none of the extreme harshness of your filtered interpretation. A clue to my intent is that I copped to the exact behavior I was describing in Ravi. I spent my whole 40s running this girls in their 20's dating older men program, and I learned some things. So unlike his tweak to me, mine contained actual good advice. obbajeeba hit the right note about my intentions. At Ravi's age I was living with a 21 year old and at the end of an intoxicating year got my song "the River of Missing You" out of it when it inevitably blew up. These mismatched relationships come with a fuse. Once I learned that, I had a fantastic decade in my 40's knowing what I was in for each time. But in the end I realized that the cons of mismatched decades, with their built-in life agendas, was not worth the pros. Ravi will learn his own way. But believe me, he will get schooled. These young chicks are learning to become women, and older men are are cannon fodder in their growth. They learn what they can and then move on, as well they should. This is often before the man understands how caught in an impossible fantasy he is. If he is lucky he gets a song out of it in the end. That is how I rolled. Now I am sadder but wiser and date age appropriate. I've never been so happy in relationship. It only took me a decade to figure it out! Don't you trust Ravi to be outraged on his own behalf when he returns if he chooses to take my post the unflattering way you did? Do you believe that being outraged on his behalf ahead of time is making this a friendlier place where people are understanding each other better? I think you need to examine your own intentions in this Robin. I'm not buying that it is any more friendly to Ravi than it is to me.
