Yesterday, because I was in a silly mood, I decided
to make an exception to my Do Not Bother To Read rule
and reply to several people here...as an experiment.
Trying to capture it in a haiku, this is what I came
up with:

Throwing four dogs 
an attention bone
then waiting to see 
what happens

What I expected to happen happened. 

They perceived my comments as initiating a "dialogue," 
and more revealing, as if by making them I had issued 
an invitation to them to *argue* with me, in some kind 
of silly quasi-intellectual dick-size contest. This 
is not to be. :-) 

They all went back on the DNR list immediately after 
my experiment, and I haven't bothered to read any of
their followups, except to note in Message View that
they made them.

This explanation -- that I was inviting them to 
*demonstrate* WHY one shouldn't bother with them --
will in all likelihood not reach them. They'll ignore 
it, pretend that I'm really engaged in some kind of
dialogue or argument with them, and continue to 
imagine that they're not only engaged in some kind 
of duel with me to establish dominance, but that
they're "winning" it.

THAT is exactly why I don't bother with them. THAT
is why they're on my DNR list, and shall remain there.

Life's too short to bother to interact with people
who have established a history of trying to turn every
interaction on this forum into some kind of imaginary
contest that they can "win." Let them do this with
people who like that kinda stuff. I don't. 

I look forward instead to having actual "no need to
'win'...just having a fun discussion" interactions 
with people who have evolved past the level of 
trying to establish dominance -- dominance of their
egos, and dominance of their ideas. I look forward to
khazana108 being back, because he "gets" that kind
of interaction, and I look forward to similar inter-
actions with other people here who have established
a history of being able to maintain that kind of
non-attached, non-argumentative real dialogue. 

And I leave the world of *imaginary* "dialogues" -- 
the kind that exist only inside the heads of those 
stuck in them -- to those stuck there. May they 
"win" these imaginary arguments all they want, and
declare "victory" all they want. They're talking to
no one except themselves, and those silly enough
to listen. 


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