Why do you insist on standing on one side of a wall, describing it in great detail, and taking so much time, just to point out the other side of a wall? Seems like you really *like* the wall there, B. If it wasn't there, you would have nothing to defend yourself against so strenuously. All you need to do, IMO, is turn around, 180 degrees from the wall, and face *your* world. Unless there is nothing there, except more walls.:-)
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb wrote: > > Contrary to popular belief, IMO it's not about vengeance, or > retribution, or any of the other equally petty motivations often > attributed to chronic cyberstalkers. In my opinion, it's about > attention. > > In almost all cases of cyberstalking, if you go back far enough, what > you find is a case of someone who has glommed onto another human being, > and the "high" they get from interacting with them, one-on-one. It > really doesn't *matter* what the nature of the relationship was, or > whether there was any real "high" there or whether the future > cyberstalker imagined it -- they *got off* on the interaction, so it was > "real" to them. > > And then the other person cut them off at the pump. > > They dumped them. > > The dumpee, of course, feels insulted at being publicly dumped, but that > IMO is not the real motivating factor. It's the having been "cut off at > the pump" thang that matters. > > For most normal human beings, what you do after having been dumped is > MOVE ON, and don't dwell on it any longer than is necessary. For the > cyberstalker, this is almost biologically impossible, because they have > become so habituated to the object of their obsession's attention that > they feel somehow deprived without it. > > So the QUEST, for the cyberstalker mentality, becomes How To > Re-establish The Connection: "How do I get this person to respond to me > again?" > > The various tactics used by cyberstalker vary -- harassment, insults, > flattery, escalating to begging, pleading, and near-libelous accusations > -- but the intent is always the same: "Talk to me again. Interact with > me again. Give me an opportunity to lure you into yet another direct > confrontation, the end product of which will be to establish to unseen > lurkers that I have bested you." > > Stupid stalkees fall for this shit. Experienced stalkees rarely do. > > That's all. This was Just Another Turq Rap, posted over coffee at my New > Favorite Cafe. It's just thrown out onto the Internet like spaghetti > thrown against the refrigerator, to see whether it "sticks." No one need > reply to it, unless they feel that my rap describes them personally, and > they're so affronted by that description that they feel they just *have* > to respond. >
