Other side of the wall, AGAIN, Barry. Geez, you are one imprisoned soul. Turn around 180 degrees, as I suggested earlier, watch yet another movie, or TV show, or drink some psychoactive coffee (did you know coffee is the most widely used psychoactive substance on earth?), or have a beer, or visit a hooker. Anything to prevent you from facing the world which upsets you continuously.
It is one thing to complain and insult and whine, but the real difference between you and most others who find something to whine about, is the others Get-Over-It. You seem to be so lost in complaining, insulting and whining, that you would rather do that, than getting off that soft, lily-white ass of yours, and doing something about it. Note: Doing something about it means not spending all day pouring over statistics in the FFL archives to yet make a larger complaint. Try facing the REAL world, Barry, where the rest of us live. PS You'll know the difference because life experiences don't begin with a title, and end with rolling credits. You'll figure it out after awhile. --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb wrote: > > In studies I've read recently, researchers have found that those who > score highly on a scale of neurotic behavior have a significantly higher > risk of developing PTSD if exposed to a traumatic event. In the study, > neuroticism was defined as a type of personality behavior in which > people experience high degrees of anxiety in response to everyday > events, and thus tend to overreact to those ordinary events. The > hypothesis was that this tendency to overreact to the ordinary might put > them at risk of developing PTSD if they were exposed to an extraordinary > traumatic event. Well, the data backed that hypothesis up -- the > neurotics *were* more likely to develop PTSD. > > PTSD is a disorder in which people are trapped in an endless loop of > dwelling on and flashing back to the past. Some event triggered an > initial reaction to the event, but this reaction fails to fade. It may, > in fact, become stronger as time passes, and become very much an > overreaction, leading to panic attacks, nightmares, sleep disorders, and > resulting in the PTSD sufferers becoming easily startled and prone to > emotional outbursts. They dwell on the past, can't get over it, and > often attempt to get others to dwell on the same past, to as it were > "share the misery." > > Now extrapolate these findings to the Internet, and behavior we see > there. Most people are non-neurotic in their everyday Net behavior. > Sure, they might get pissed off about something someone says and go > FLAME ON for a few posts, but then the next day it's forgotten, and both > the flamer and the flamee are having civilized conversations again. > > Others hang on to perceived affronts longer. In other words, they start > to display neurotic behavior, taking an ordinary event and turning it > into a Big Fucking Deal, one that they just can't get over. So they may > stay in FLAME ON mode for longer than the non-neurotic Net denizens -- a > week, or occasionally a couple of weeks. > > Then there are the ones who hold onto perceived affronts for years. > > They turn them into vendettas, pursuing the supposed perpetrator of the > original affront in thread after thread, even the ones that have nothing > to do with whatever was originally considered an affront. They actively > attempt to persuade others to dwell on this past affront the way they > do, often citing posts *from* the past and encouraging others to read > them, so that they can become as affronted by and unable to get over > something that happened in the past as the grudgeholder is. Whatever > precipitated the original affront, the grudgeholders continue to > overreact to any mention of it, or any contact with the supposed > perpetrator of the affront as if it happened minutes ago, not years ago. > At times it feels -- vibe-wise -- as if they're having actual > *flashbacks* of the original event, reliving the emotions it provoked > for them in the past all over again. > > This last behavior strikes me as the Net counterpart of PTSD. > > That's my theory, anyway. Cyberstalking and holding long-term grudges on > the Internet is a form of PTSD. On a spiritual level it's also classic > samskaric behavior -- allowing yourself to be ruled by past impressions > you can't get over. > > Maybe if those studies that indicate that TM is helpful in the treatment > of PTSD are correct, these long-term Netgrudgeholders could benefit from > learning it. > > Oh. Wait. > > Many of them already practice TM, and have for several decades. > > Never mind. >
