--- In [email protected], Peter <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > --- akasha_108 <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > snip > > > > I find posts are, amongst other things, a way of > > working through > > points and issues. <snip>
Good points made above. To own my own frustration I'd > have to say I admire the intelligence of both Judy and > Unc and always look forward to their posts, except > when they snip at each other. It goes,on and on and > on.... It's like your two best friends fighting with > one another. You can't figure out what they're doing. > You like them both and are baffled by why they can't > get along. > I agree with akasha 108's comment above, that we engage others in a particular way to elicit a response in ourselves that we can learn from. I have used this as a useful learning tool as necessary, finding myself in dramas wholly of my own construct, to see how it feels to me, sometimes repeatedly, in order to gain enough awareness of the situation elicited, in order to resolve it, to understand why I am creating such a condition for myself. The interesting part of it, is that frequently we feel that to engage another is 'in *their* best interest', or '*they* made me do it', or 'I just had to say something to *them*', or 'I enjoy *their* response'. Lots of emphasis on the other person's apparent need for this, when in fact the need is purely and entirely our own. Apparently both Barry and Judy see value in their engaging each other. The issue is not whether or not they like each other. Each provides a useful mirror to the other for some sort of personal pay- off. All for the best! ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Get fast access to your favorite Yahoo! Groups. Make Yahoo! your home page http://us.click.yahoo.com/dpRU5A/wUILAA/yQLSAA/JjtolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
