--- In [email protected], akasha_108 <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
wrote:
> --- In [email protected], Peter <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
wrote:
>  
> > > Strip clubs exploit women as sex objects.
> > 
> > Yes and no. I've had several clients who were "exotic"
> > dancers and they absolutely hated the work, 
> 
> Not arguing your experience, but its hard to extraoplate much from a
> "self-selective" sample of two. (I am not implying that you are
> extrapolating such. Some might) 
> 
> (Self-selective -- that is the dancers were not chosen from a random
> sampling process, but took actions -- went to see a shrink -- that 
> by their actions indicates that they may be dancers that were having
> issues with thier jobs. Even if 30 girls came to you, such a group 
> is not necessarily representative of the population of dancers.)
> 
> > but loved
> > the money. 
> 
> Its hard to argue explotation, which Vaj has, when the money is so 
> good.
> 
> > What bothered them most was not their
> > nudity or physical contact with the men, but the
> > pretending to be attracted to and interested in the
> > men. 
> 
> Not unparallel to many jobs where one has to pretend to like and be
> interested in their customers. I am in awe of real-estate agents 
> and the social face they have to wear, their need to be "on" 24/7 
> etc. Lots of other professions have similar "performance" roles. 
> It is not exploitation in and of itself.
> 
> Or co-workers / bosses. Getting along, subtley kissing up, living 
> with intrigue, is at the core of white-collar corporate life. It 
> can be "bothersome", draining, irritating. 
> 
> While many if not most jobs have a downside, people are generally 
> free to weigh the postives and negatives of a job. White-collar 
> employees and skilled tradesmen generally have free will to keep 
> their job, in spite of the negatives, or to leave it and seek 
> something new. Perhaps at lower pay and prestige. Still, such 
> employees are not "exploited". 
> 
> > Also the relating of the men to them as sex
> > objects was very wearing. 
> 
> Woman everywhere, I imagine, can get weary of such. That does not 
> make the case, in itself, that women are exploited  because they are
> objectified by some men. Lots of people are objectified in some 
> fashion.

I have to agree with Akasha here.  I once traveled a lot
for a living to Detroit, and there was a strip club there
that brilliantly was situated near the airport, and even
more brilliantly offered a free limo ride to the airport,
as long as you left early and stopped off for a drink or
two at their club.  As a result, I have sat at their bar
and talked to dozens of stippers, gotten to know them.

There *are* a lot of messed-up, low-self-image women 
working in strip clubs.  There are a lot of messed-up, 
low-self-image women working in offices.  

There are also a lot of smart, non-hung-up-about-sex
women who are using the clubs to pay for a good education
and a future.  If there is any exploitation going on, it
is of the men, not the women.  The women are paid very
well, both by the clubs and in the form of tips.  They
are taken *care* of -- God *help* the poor schmuck who
tries to touch one of them or do something inappropriate.

It's like any other form of work -- if it's so great,
why do they have to pay you to be there?  You're trading
some of your time for something you think is more valuable
than your time, in this case, money.







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