--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Xenophaneros Anartaxius" <anartaxius@...> wrote: (snip) > I found the following on Wikipedia > > 'Some psychoanalysts and writers make a distinction between > "healthy narcissism" and "unhealthy narcissism"...the healthy > narcissist being someone who has a real sense of self-esteem > that can enable them to leave their imprint on the world, but > who can also share in the emotional life of others.' > > From my perspective, if you have narcissistic traits as has > been implied here, this would seem to be the kind narcissism > that you would have, that is, basically what normal people > have. You seem to have a well balanced confidence. But having > read about this particular subject a bit now, I do think that > your tagging Robin with the label NPD seems to be in the > ballpark, and that your initial response to him here was dead > on; I don't think he ever recovered from that.
As Stupid Sal was wont to say, this would be funny if it weren't so sad. Or, alternatively, this would be sad if it weren't so funny. But you're right, Robin never did get over the extreme inadvertent irony of Barry projecting his own unhealthy narcissistic traits onto Robin. He thought it was hilarious. Assuming one is familiar with both Barry's and Robin's posts, if one looks, as a nonprofessional, at the lists of supposed narcissistic traits--without attempting to make a diagnosis of any kind, mind you--it's almost absurdly obvious that Barry has those traits in spades, whereas Robin does not. > There is something else I think I have noticed in the two > years I have been on FFL. Do you experience the tendency > to reference your past in interacting with others dropping > off? Haven't you noticed how often in the past two weeks or so Barry has referenced a previous interaction with me, insisting that I respond once again to accusations he's made more times than I can count since the interaction first took place? > There are situations where we do have to do that, That wasn't the case with the example I gave above. It was entirely gratuitous. > but I have noticed it is getting significantly harder as > time goes on to think about what happened before NOW, and > it seems in your writing, that tendency is falling away. Didn't seem to be at all difficult for Barry to obsess over this past interaction with me. And not just that one, either, that's just the most extreme recent example. You might want to do a search for the term "death threat" in Barry's posts in the past two years. It's appeared 45 times, an average of almost twice a month. (That also references a past interaction of Barry's with me.) In fact, I'd say Barry's always-strong tendency to reference his past interactions with his critics has been increasing in recent years. He's always done it more than anyone else here, but it almost seems as if it's gotten out of control lately. It appears to me that he hauls out past interactions so often because he doesn't have any solid legitimate criticisms to make of his critics in his current diatribes, but he can *pretend* to have made some in those past interactions, knowing nobody is going to go look up the interactions and see whether he actually did. It seems to me, Xeno, that your problem is a decline in your ability to notice things that don't conform to whatever your perspective happens to be. > This more a feeling about what is happening than explicitly > what you write. Mind-reading, you mean? > PS > A search on FFL for the word 'vicious': > authfriend: 393 > turquoiseb: 88 > > This of course includes re-quotes from other posts. To bad we > cannot search only original posted material. Generally speaking, if you were to go through the posts, I think you'd find that most of my original posts using the term are references to posts of Barry's and of Barry's allies. Most of the rest of us don't tend to write vicious posts.
