Just speaking for myself, I sure am glad we have Judy around to remind
us of our ethical duties on this discussion group. What would we do
without her? Go figure.
"The rudeness, the arrogance, the insulting manner of my approach was to
deliver perhaps enough of a shock to make her utter something other than
her daily New Age affirmations." - Robin Carlsen, Monday, October 1,
2012 6:38 PM
cavil:
1. To make petty or unnecessary objections.
2. An objection seen as petty or unnecessary.
3. To find fault unnecessarily; raise trivial objections.
4. To quibble about; detect petty flaws in.
5. A carping or trivial objection.
"Judy caviled about her dialog with Robin."
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cavil
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/cavil
On 12/1/2013 9:14 AM, authfri...@yahoo.com wrote:
OK, Share, let's see if you can both listen and reply to this post,
which is about some unfinished business from yesterday that we need to
deal with.
In a post to Barry, you wrote:
> Judy first ran her number on me on Sept 9, 2012.
As I've already noted, this is not true. We had clashed well before
September 9.
But this is what I want to discuss with you today, since you didn't
respond to what I told you yesterday. You wrote:
> She said that I did such and such in my post to RWC. She
>did not qualify with in my opinion or it sounds like or
>even I think.
In fact, I said:
"After all the lovely conversations you'd had with
him, covering a wide range of themes, that you had
decided you were going to "suspend communications"
altogether because of a single remark sure sounded
like you had felt seriously insulted."
AND:
"Because this post sure doesn't sound to me as
though you want to do anything but beat up on Robin,
even after he's taken the blame on himself for *your*
misunderstanding and apologized at length."
Then you wrote:
> Of course she didn't ask me if I was doing such and such. She just
> declared that I did such and such as if she could see inside my
> head and know, without error, what I had been thinking and feeling.
In fact, I said:
"And now you seem to feel even more seriously
insulted that he's left you a public apology."
AND:
"I couldn't figure out either what your problem
was with what he had said."
AND:
"For the life of me, I can't seewhy you're being so
snarky."
Now, let's see if you can bring yourself to acknowledge that what you
claimed yesterday about my September 9 post was not true. (Let's just
look at what you said about it yesterday, and not try to avoid that
issue by shifting attention to the merits of the arguments back then, OK?)
For your convenience, here's the link to my September 9 post so you
can check to make sure I haven't misquoted either you or myself:
http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/FairfieldLife/conversations/messages/319521
It was crammed with qualifiers and expressions of uncertainty,
entirely contrary to your characterization of it yesterday. And it
wasn't even a nasty post!
I'm betting you can't do it, Share. I don't think you have the
intestinal fortitude to confess to your untruthfulness, even with the
evidence right in front of your eyes, even knowing it's in front of
everyone else's eyes here as well.
Goodness knows this wasn't the first or the only time you've
misrepresented what someone else has said in an attempt to make them
look bad and yourself appear to be a blameless victim. It's just such
a clear-cut case, and you brought it on yourself. Your post yesterday
was an entirely gratuitous slam, piling on to a long list of dishonest
statements of Barry's about me.
I "ran my number" on you? No, babe, you ran your number on me.
As Ann pointed out to you:
"Share, take a moment and have a care. You are moving into some
dangerous territory for yourself as an individual and as a human
being. Be careful that you do not use the mistaken and erroneous
notions of your faux friend Barry and your well-intentioned but
not-really-helping-you associate Feste to launch into this head space
of yours. I don't think it is a healthy one or somewhere that is
characterized by what is real or what is true."
Share wrote, oblivious to the irony:
Nice, turq, and I'd add: we often listen with the intention to reply
and by replying, *improve* our fellow humans any way we can, whether
they want to be *improved* or not! Of course this doesn't apply much
to the Funny Farm Lounge (-:
