Ah ha ha ha. Barry, as head of the *real* Mean Girls Club, you just described
the MO of you, Share, and Richard perfectly. I don't know how you do it - your
ability to talk about yourself and your compatriots is bar none, the best!
Merry Christmas.
---In FairfieldLife@{{emailDomain}}, <turquoiseb@...> wrote:
--- In [email protected], Share Long wrote:
>
> Richard, I'm pretty sure this is a specialty of the MGC. If they think of you
> as the enemy, they ignore what's good about you and focus on your mistakes or
> flaws which of course we all have.
Trying my best to speak generically, Share, I think you'll find that this is a
quality shared by Mean Girls everywhere, not just on this forum. If I were to
pass along the occult view of the 'dynamic' in place in such interactions, it
would go sorta like this.
Mean Girls (of any type, or sex) feed on Attention. They are hooked on it in
the same way that smack addicts are hooked on heroin. And when they see someone
getting more Attention than they are (or, let's face it on this forum, any
Attention at all), they get pissed off at those who are attracting the
Attention because it's "Ours, damnit." If one could auto-color posts according
to psychosis, the posts from Mean Girls would consistently be green, for
jealousy. :-)
So anyway, these wannabe occultists see someone else getting the Attention that
they seek, so they Can't Have That. They have to combat that somehow. The most
common tactic -- Stage One, as it were -- is to try to attack the person who is
getting more attention directly, *to make them feel bad, and lose their
self-confidence*. This first psychic attack is intended to weaken them.
If it doesn't work, they move on to Stage Two, which involves trying to make
the other people in the immediate environment see the person who they're paying
attention to as flawed or broken, as 'less than themselves.' This is the Stage
in which the Mean Girls usually pull out all the stops. They'll say anything
they can think of about the person they're trying to demonize, because the
Whole Purpose is *to* demonize them. Since they *obviously* can't compete on
equal ground and gain a similar measure of Attention, they attempt to discredit
the ones who are getting more Attention than they are, in the hopes that it
will shift back to them.
So *naturally* such people focus on what they perceive as your mistakes or
faults. *Their* whole act is about pretending that they don't have any. So if
you do, *you* are not worth paying Attention to, and they are.
Yeah, right.
This is such an old, tired act on the Internet that it amazes me that people
still fall for it. But they do.
Bottom line from my POV is that *if* people do, and *if* they write you off
because of what a few Mean Girls say about you, they really aren't worth having
in your sphere of influence, are they?
> Actually I just realized something: it's probably healthier to have them as
> enemies than as friends!
You should look into the works of Carlos Castaneda. He may have been a
charlatan, but a case can be made that everyone else people cite on this forum
as an authority is, too. :-) Charlatans or not, they occasionally said things
one can learn from.
In Carlos' case, the pieces of his philosophy you might wanna look into have to
do with his characterization of the Petty Tyrant. They're pretty much "required
reading" if one wants to survive on the Internet.
In the strategic inventories of warriors, self-importance figures as the
activity that consumes the greatest amount of energy, hence, their effort to
eradicate it.
One of the first concerns of warriors is to free that energy in order to
face the unknown with it. The action of rechanneling that energy is
impeccability.
The most effective strategy for rechanneling that energy consists of six
elements that interplay with one another. Five of them are called the
attributes of warriorship: control, discipline, forbearance, timing, and will .
They pertain to the world of the warrior who is fighting to lose
self-importance. The sixth element, which is perhaps the most important of all,
pertains to the outside world and is called the petty tyrant.
A petty tyrant is a tormentor. Someone who either holds the power of life
and death over warriors or simply annoys them to distraction.
Petty tyrants teach us detachment. The ingredients of the new seers'
strategy shows how efficient and clever is the device of using a petty tyrant.
The strategy not only gets rid of self-importance; it also prepares warriors
for the final realization that impeccability is the only thing that counts in
the path of knowledge.
- Carlos Castaneda, "The Fire From Within"
