Re "Tolstoy gave the right advice.": Possibly. But, as I said, it's the hypocrisy of Tolstoy that grates with me.
The English conservative journalist Malcolm Muggeridge (a true British eccentric but a first-rate broadcaster) was a big fan of Tolstoy. One time in the 1960s he gave a talk attacking sexual promiscuity. To be fair to Muggeridge he did mention in the talk that as his audience were all young they couldn't accept or comprehend what he was saying. They would only understand him when they matured. An acquaintance of his later claimed that Muggeridge said to him at the time that if he had been a student in those heady sixties days he'd have slept with all the girls he could! To me the key is that you should always be true to what you are; who you are; where you're at. And as the sexual drive is one of the strongest impulses pushing us along we have a choice: 1) go with the flow, in which case you can draw on your sex energy to motivate you in life's struggle or 2) resist the sex impulse, in which case you'll spend your life labouring *against* your own body energies, as well as having to cope with the problems life throws at you. I am a great believer in the uni-sex dress-code.
