Ann, replying to your analogy of farting in the room, I don't think what you do
wrt turq is open a window. I think it's more like farting in turq's direction
which of course is also farting in the room.
As for your comment about "garden variety of toxicity" I addressed that.
From: "awoelfleba...@yahoo.com [FairfieldLife]"
<FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com>
To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Monday, November 3, 2014 8:38 PM
Subject: Re: [FairfieldLife] 7 Techniques to Handle Toxic People
---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <sharelong60@...> wrote :
Ann, I'd say it depends on your intention, esp your general intention in
living. Do you want to benefit yourself and others? Or do you want to do harm?
As for the rest, I think it's pretty simple. If someone is harming us and won't
stop, then we remove ourselves from their life. If someone is harming others
and won't stop, then we put them in jail until they can be rehabilitated.
Sometimes jail is not possible and I personally don't think jail cures anyone
of anything, in fact, jail mostly makes bad guys badder. And of course you are
talking about a criminal level of toxicity when you talk about jail. Most of
the toxicity is not something you could incarcerate someone for. I'm talking
garden variety toxicity.
Here online, if someone says something untrue, we say what is true. If someone
says something we don't agree with, we say we don't agree. If someone is a
jerk, we say we think that, ONE time. To say it over and over is imo a sign
that the name caller is projecting and or venting.
I think a lot of the nastiness online is people venting what they are unwilling
or unable to vent about in their 3D life.
If the asshole keeps on and on and on then one time is often not enough in
terms of responding to it or attempting to deflect the untruths or negativity.
When someone keeps farting in the room you just can't get away with opening the
window once.
Again, my opinion.
Ditto. From: "awoelflebater@... [FairfieldLife]"
<FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com>
To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Monday, November 3, 2014 10:16 AM
Subject: Re: [FairfieldLife] 7 Techniques to Handle Toxic People
---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <sharelong60@...> wrote :
Fleetwood, in many fairytales, if the king and queen don't invite the Wicked
Witch to the birth celebration of their baby, then she arrives anyway and puts
a curse on the little one! Meaning that we all have toxic elements in us to
some degree. If we don't deal with them in a healthy way, then they show up in
our life as allegedly toxic people, etc.
First you call people toxic. Next thing you know, you're burning them at the
stake or leading them into the gas oven!
Is it okay to call someone as "asshole", "obnoxious", "annoying" or any other
number of adjectives? Is it possible for people to actually be these things or
are we merely putting our own subjective spin on how others act? Under what
circumstances do we hold others responsible for their actions and effect on us
or on others? What is the point where we say enough is enough? Or do we simply
accept the behaviour of others as none of our business even when it impacts our
lives?
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