---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <sharelong60@...> wrote :
Richard, I'm sticking to: acting out of fear=unhealthy; acting out of loving neutrality=healthy, whatever the act is. Fear often generates anger. Fear and anger are natural responses in certain situations and, as well, certain people find themselves afraid of things others are not so one can not say it is necessarily a "normal" response. "Loving neutrality" seems like an oxymoron to me. Loving is the farthest thing from being neutral in my world. I just can't imagine being in a state of loving something while at the same time feeling neutral. Neutral to me is a kind of stasis and a state of impasse or even non-feeling. Love is very much not that. Love is probably one of the most involved states you can exist in.