---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <steve.sundur@...> wrote :
I would be surprised if there was a five year plan in such relationships. I'd be surprised if there was a three year plan. But the idea of having three parents, and then having one of them voted off the island, or deciding to vamoose would seem to be more detrimental to a child than a divorce between two parents. But I don't think it is a matter of simply living and loving together. I think the policy dictates an open door to any short term or long term sexual relationship. Some good points there, Steve. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <awoelflebater@...> wrote : ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <fleetwood_macncheese@...> wrote : Yes, polyamory is basically there, to take care of lust. Humans, though, do themselves a disservice getting addicted to it. Part of Barry's many problems, is that he never made the transition, from lust, to intimacy (which incorporates plenty of lust), and doesn't understand the difference - hence, no long-term relationships for him, ever. I doubt he has even lived with a woman for longer than a year, during his entire adult life. He just doesn't get it. Maybe. What I think is that although it is in the nature of mammals, including us, to be controlled to a certain extent by our hormones and our egos, we are prone to being attracted to a number of different sexual partners during our lifetime. On the other hand, there is also some deep-seated desire to share with and to be loved and nurtured by another and for long periods of time. We seem to like to be liked and looked after and appreciated and we crave a certain level of security. The idea of marriage seems to provide this. The reality can be quite different but that hasn't kept a lot of us from attempting marriage nevertheless. To start to introduce the elements of multiple partners all living and loving together under the same roof and throw a child into that mix then all of the complications inherent in monogamous relationships seem to be able to exponentially increase because human traits tend to get thrown wildly into the mix. Chief among these characteristics would be jealousy, possessiveness, envy, lack of self confidence, doubt. But I am willing to investigate further - not as a possibility for myself - but as a general peek into what motivates people to share their sexual love with multiple partners while at the same time thinking of their relationships as way deeper than sex and need.