> > I don't know about anyone else, but I find the > > concept of women thinking of a man as a "good > > catch" because of his income more offensive than > > any of the racist epithets attributed here to Tom. > > > ******** > > Why would you be offended by this? It's a simple fact of life, > affirmed to be so by many intelligent women in private > conversation and also by normal observations.
No argument there. It's just that personally I would never have anything to do with any woman who was interested in me for my money (not that I have a lot of it). I *know* that it's a factor in many women's search for a partner; it's just that I'm not searching for "many women," just one who is looking for a little more out of life than an easy life. > A fairly smart guy with some expertise in this area told > me once that men who want to be loved "for themselves", and > not for their incomes, basically want mother love from their > spouses, and are not confident about their abilities to be > a "provider". I agree with the first phrase, but not with the latter. I'm already a "provider" for several people I'm not married to or involved with in a romantic sense; that's not an issue. I help to support them (some of them are artists whose work I support) primrily *because* they never asked for or expected anything from me. I liked their work, I liked their intent, so I help to support them. None of them takes me for granted or feels that he or she has a "free ride" from me; they all work to support *themselves*, and I help out as much as I can. That seems to me to be a fairly sound basis for a romantic/ marriage relationship as well. In other words, the chances of me becoming the sole provider for someone who just sits back and does nothing to support herself are pretty much nil. :-) > I am not pointing a finger here, nor making an accusation. > This is just what came up in repsonsive to your remarks > above regarding what you found "offensive". No problem with it coming up. It's just a personal preference with me. I got so disgusted with the money-grubbing mentality of California women (espec- ially Southern California women) that I left the state, never to return. I think it's something in the water there. :-) Call me a hopeless romantic (actually, I'm more of a hopeful romantic), but I'm still holding out for someone who has less pragmatic and more cosmic reasons for forming a relationship than finding someone to pay her bills. Unc ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Dying to be thin? Anorexia. Narrated by Julianne Moore. http://us.click.yahoo.com/AQDrNC/sbOLAA/d1hLAA/0NYolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
