--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, anonymousff2 <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, a_non_moose_ff <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > wrote: > [SNIP] > > > anon2 replies (directed at TurqoiseB): > > > What I was trying to convey was some explanation for why your > > > efforts failed to help the person you were attempting to help. > > a_non_moose_ff: > > HAHAHAHA. Now thats funny. > > anon2: > For some reason, this response gave me a warm, fuzzy feeling - nice > to know that I produced laughter in you. Didn't feel attacked in the > least. Even though my comment wasn't intended to be funny.
Sorry, I was not laughing at you. Or anyone. Just laughing at the notion that Barry's motives were "attempting to help". I should have been more clear. > > I am inclined to wonder about motivations. Is this person > (TurqoiseB) making a joke so as to be more appreciated by the > regular FFL readers, or making a joke because he thinks it will help > the person being laughed at to grow (e.g. let go of intellect), or > making a joke to think better of himself, or making a joke to put > down someone else, or ...? > > The idea that this was about helping someone else to grow came from > TurqoiseB's own examples of how "enlightened" masters make fun of > their students to help them to laugh a little more at themselves, > and, presumably to grow as a result. And the Nose Glasses story - an > interesting management approach. Thats part of laughter. The joint image of Barry in a teacher's role, to non-exisating "students", whom he is trying to help. While I don't take barry's laughter at me as insult (sticks and stones...), or even offensive, I don't believe his motive was to help. His story makes the contrast all that much ironic, and funnier. > Anyway, if I were sincerely trying to help someone, and I found out > it wasn't working, I would try a different tactic, rather than argue > with the person and/or interested bystanders about why it should > have worked, and isn't everyone else just so dumb not to realize > this. As judy has said, "Thats our barry!" > Another question that comes to mind: When is it appropriate to > attempt to help someone who hasn't come to you seeking your wisdom > or your help? Unsolicited help is said to be on the same order of sin as caviling (a big one) somewhere in vedic lit. > And another: How much of the conversation on FFL is really about > helping, sharing etc.? Some of it is, certainly. I would hope it were more. That was the point of my original comment to Barry "Lets stick to substance". > anon2 > ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Join modern day disciples reach the disfigured and poor with hope and healing http://us.click.yahoo.com/lMct6A/Vp3LAA/i1hLAA/UlWolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/