--- In [email protected], TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
wrote:
>
> --- In [email protected], "sparaig" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
wrote:
> > --- In [email protected], TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
> > [...]
> > > Judy's just smarting from the devastating effects
> > > of being laughed at, and is feeling "attacked" 
> > > again, that's all.  And as usual when she feels
> > > she has been "attacked," she's trying to stink 
> > > up the place.  Who knew that laughter could have 
> > > such an effect?  :-)
> > 
> > So, you're aware that at least one person feels bad when 
> > she's laughed at, and yet you persist in doing things to 
> > make this person feel bad.
> > 
> > Why?
> 
> Duh. Because the 'thing' that I 'do' that apparently
> makes her feel bad

Nothing you do makes me feel bad, Barry.  I
have to respect someone before they can make
me feel bad.

 is LAUGH, dude.  I can't *help*
> but laugh at her; she and her machinations and her
> ability to hold a grudge are often ludicrous.

Nor do I hold a grudge against you, for the
same reason.

> The laughter feels natural.  Pretending to take her 
> seriously does not.  You can go ahead and take her 
> seriously if you're feeling compassionate today and
> you feel that you should.  I wish you well with that.  :-)

Of course, deliberately *publicly* laughing at
someone and "pretending" to take them seriously
are not the only two alternatives.  You may not
be able to keep yourself from laughing, but you
don't have to tell them, and everybody else, that
you're doing so; nor do you have to say anything
to or about them.

As Lawson suggests, you *want* to make people you
don't like feel bad.  To have that desire and act
on it is one thing; to pretend it's not the case
is quite another.  It's dishonest and hypocritical.







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