--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "shempmcgurk" <shempmcgurk@> > wrote: > > > > Buckeyecreek, my good fellow, you missed the BEST Movement phrase! > > > > It's not "It would be good if...", it's "Perhaps it would be > > best if...". > > > > Adding the "perhaps" and using "best" instead of "good" has SO > > many subtle advantages to it! > > *Especially* if the sentiment one is trying to express > is, "Perhaps it would be best if you shut up and did > what I say/agree with me, and stop challenging my > authority." It's classic passive-agressive behavior.
But to provide some balance, "It would be good if..." can also be used, and often is used, as a polite way to present an alternative way of seeing things to people who are locked into their own way of seeing things so strongly that they can see no other. It's all in the intent behind the words, and the manner in which the phrase is delivered. The key seems to be developing the intuition to tell one form of the buzzphrase from the other, to discern coercion disguised by movement-speak from an actual attempt to help out. The key factor, in my experience, is watching the speaker's history *over time*. If, over a period of time, the person using this phrase repeatedly really does seem to have the intent of smoothing things out and producing the best possible results, that should be kept in mind the next time he uses the buzzphrase. If, on the other hand, the speaker has a consistent history of trying to get his way or prove himself "right" and/or someone else "wrong," that should also be kept in mind. I was fortunate enough to study with a teacher who trained us to listen intuitively to the intent behind words, not just to the words themselves. The same phrase can mean completely different things, depending on the intent of the person speaking it. ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Join modern day disciples reach the disfigured and poor with hope and healing http://us.click.yahoo.com/lMct6A/Vp3LAA/i1hLAA/UlWolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
