on 4/16/06 3:04 AM, TurquoiseB at [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Rick Archer > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: >> >> This idiotic feud will end whenever either of you >> decides not to participate in it any more. > > Rick, just to make a point before going back > to silence on this subject, I haven't replied > to a post of Judy's since I said I wouldn't, > back on 4/11. In the future I'll go further > and try to avoid commenting on subjects that > even a paranoid obsessive might think were > about her personally. Other than dropping out > of Fairfield Life entirely, I don't see that > there is that much more I can do. > > If there are comments about the "feud" after > this, might I suggest that the commentators > pause for a moment or two before posting to > notice exactly where the "feuding" posts they > are complaining about are coming from? > > Then, having determined exactly *who* is perpet- > uating the "feud," flame away at that person. > > I think that's fair, don't you?
Sounds fair to me. I'm over 300 posts behind, and I'll probably have to delete most of them unread, so I haven't been keeping a tally of who's perpetuating the feud the most. But I get the impression that you're trying harder to end it than Judy is. Byron Katie says there are three kinds of business: my business, your business, and God's business. If you look at it that way, I think you can see everything Judy says and thinks as her business, including stuff she says and thinks about you. You have no control over it. It is what it is. It needn't bother you as long as you don't get involved in it. If both of you were to do this, there would be no feud. If either of you to do this completely, there would be no feud. Only when one of you allows yourself to get even a little bit involved in the other's business is fuel added to the fire. I don't mean to sound preachy. I hope this is useful advice. To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/