--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Your psycho-analysis of me was a masterpiece. Like being analyzed > by one of the dementors of Azkaban.
Are you afraid I have the power to drive you insane, Curtis? Have your Patronus Charms suddenly gone all limp and wilty, unable to protect you from my soul-sucking? Do you realize that your metaphor inadvertently confirms what I said, that having somebody not like you threatens to destroy your self-image and leave you an empty shell? Almost too perfect to comment on. > But I will probably give it a shot when I get back. > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <jstein@> wrote: > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" > > <curtisdeltablues@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > I am not ignoring your response. I just don't have time to respond > > > in detail. I spent too much time writing here as it is today. Do > > > you really want my comments? > > > > Up to you. My point was that when you ask someone > > a leading question *and* also supply your own answer, > > and then not only don't address the response but > > dismiss it as something "only you can ask and answer," > > it makes one wonder why you bothered to ask in the > > first place, and suggests your only motivation was to > > get your rocks off by delivering your "Dr. Phil" > > thought-stopper. > > > > > Being nice to people is not unusual in my life, giving or receiving. > > > > Right, I think that's what I said: you expend a great > > deal of effort to come across as a nice guy, and most > > people buy into that. You're used to them doing so, > > and when you encounter someone who doesn't, you don't > > know how to just accept it; you feel compelled to *fix* > > it, to almost force them to change their mind. > > > > You simply don't come across as "real" to me, Curtis. > > The nice-guy stuff feels artificial, studied, > > calculated (not consciously; I think you've been > > doing it for so long it's become automatic--but > > I do sense a tinge of anxiety to it). > > > > <snip> > > > I don't think you are especially good at reading people. I think it > > > is the lack of emotional intelligence that is your downfall. > > > > Let's just say I get a lot of feedback in precisely > > the opposite direction (not here, though, obviously). > > > > So I am > > > not losing any sleep over your unkind remarks. I just figure you > > > don't know any better. Seems like a tough way to go through life to > > > me. But I will give it some thought about why I would post to > > > someone with such a low regard for me. That might need some work > > > on my part. > > > > My point is that you *should* be able to refrain > > from trying to sweet-talk me into changing my mind > > about you. I think that's what you need to work on > > (and I'm doing my bit to help). My opinion of you > > shouldn't matter unless you figure I'm right and > > that you need to change. > > > > Feel free to talk to me or not, as you choose. > > Two people don't have to like each other to have > > a conversation. But try to be real if that's what > > you decide to do. > > > To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
