--- In [email protected], "Patrick Gillam" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- Rick Archer wrote: > > > > It may be someone¹s karma to suffer, but > > we don¹t have to choose to deliver > > it to them. On the contrary, we can make > > it our karma to relieve them of suffering. > > One of my big frustrations has been my seeming > inability to refrain from kicking people bearing > "kick me" attitudes. I don't have a recent example, > so maybe it's one of those undesirable behaviors > that has fallen away due to increasing light. Dunno. > But do you know what I mean? Has anyone here > ever seen that someone obviously *wanted* to feel > like a victim - that it was part of their identity (that > nefarious instrument of ignorance, one's identity) - > and you couldn't help but fulfill their desire by > picking on them? > > I've done that, and immediately thought, "Wait, > that's not the kind of person I want to be." But > too late. >
My ex-wife was like that. AFter two weeks, we called it quits. I saw her again many years later and she sent me a 9-page letter detailing her life after she left. It was filled with constant beatings, first from her Dad, then from her brother-in-law, and finally from her recently-ex husband. She was living in a halfway house for abused women when we met on the bus 5 years after the breakup. I am VERY glad that she left me... To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
