--- In [email protected], TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In [email protected], "authfriend" <jstein@> wrote: > > > > --- In [email protected], TurquoiseB <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > --- In [email protected], Sal Sunshine <salsunshine@> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > On Oct 13, 2006, at 1:17 AM, TurquoiseB wrote: > > > > > > > > >> Judy, has it ever occurred to you that adults don't tell other > > > > >> adults > > > > >> what they'd "like you to do"? That it's usually up to the > > > > >> person to > > > > >> decide for him/herself what is best? I guess not. > > > > > > > > > > Some people are only comfortable in a situation in > > > > > which they are constantly told what to do and what > > > > > not to do. After thirty years or so of this, they > > > > > aspire not to enlightenment but to telling other > > > > > people what to do and what not to do. :-) > > > > > > > > Exactly. Condescension becomes a way of life, and if you can't > > > > beat em, join em, I guess. > > > > > > > > It's very doubtful Judy would put up with the manipulation in > > > > the TMO were it to really occur with anyone else, with any > > > > frequency at all. She'd simply find a new doctor, dentist or > > > > whatever. But it's impossible to admit she's been taken in all > > > > these years. > > > > > > Bingo. > > > > > > I really do think that that's the issue. She (and > > > many others) have a fairly fixed sense of self. > > > When it's challenged, and someone sees them differ- > > > ently, they feel the need to "defend" that imaginary > > > fixed self. And one of the things that a fixed self > > > *hates* to do is admit that it may have been stupid. :-) > > > > > > Those of us who are a little more fluid, and who are > > > used to laughing at ourselves (our selves, however > > > temporary and imaginary they may be) are often more > > > able to kick back and say, "Yup...I sure got taken > > > to the cleaners on that one." > > > > You do realize, Barry, don't you, that none of what > > you've been saying has anything at all to do with > > the point I made, right? > > You do realize, Judy, that many of us have no > desire to *ever* deal with your "points" or > have any kind of real interaction with you. > They are at best jumping off points for what > *we* want to talk about. We have no interest > whatsoever in talking about what *you* want > to talk about. :-) >
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