--- In [email protected], "llundrub" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > When it comes to moderation, the way it should be is this: people from FF or > with ties to FF only. The rest of you fuck off.>>
Are you doing anything about obsenities Rick? If so , you might want to let this guy know about it otherwise he's a gonner. OffWorld > > > -----Original Message----- > From: [email protected] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > On Behalf Of TurquoiseB > Sent: Sunday, March 18, 2007 4:47 AM > To: [email protected] > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Reward vs. Punishment: a different kind of > moderation > > > Since the subject of moderation of this forum has > come up, might I suggest a different *form* of > moderation, one that I have seen work on other > spiritual forums? It's a kind of "group moderation," > one that definitely WORKS to keep the overall > state of attention high and flaming to a minimum. > > What it involves is the "feedback loop." In my > opinion (and in the opinion of the other forums > on which I have seen this technique work), those > who spend a lot of time trying to provoke head-to- > head arguments or trying to insult or demonize > other posters are -- bottom line -- seeking > ATTENTION when they do so. > > Just don't give it to them. > > The compulsion to argue, or to provoke controversy > is IMO a small s self phenomenon. What else "gets > off" on proving itself "right," or on arguing with > someone else? The small s self is seeking to > *perpetuate* itself by constantly trying to stir > up controversy, in which other small s selves will > *interact* with it, and thus allow *both* small s > selves to pretend for another few minutes that they > exist, and are firmly in charge. > > An alternative is just for people posting here to > be a little more mindful about the posts that they > reply to. What I'm suggesting is that if you run > into a post that strikes you as uplifting, positive, > funny, or that otherwise made your day, respond to > it by complimenting or agreeing with the poster who > made the uplifting post. Get into a discussion with > them. > > When you encounter posts that you consider negative, > or insulting, or designed to start a fight, respond > by NOT RESPONDING. Period. Don't give the small s > self that was so lonely that the only way it knew > how to interact with other human beings was to fight > with them *any* feedback -- leave it alone in the > dark, waiting for a response that never comes. > DON'T get into discussion with such people. > > Think about it. This approach works equally well if > you are a TM critic or a TM True Believer. If Vaj > or Paul say something that you perceive as negative or > calculated to start a fight, JUST DON'T FIGHT. If > Judy or Peter K or Nablus say something that seems > equally designed to be conflict-provoking, JUST > DON'T RESPOND. > > The effectiveness of this approach is in its simplicity. > All we have to do is REWARD the behavior we consider > positive by giving it feedback, and NOT REWARD > the behavior we consider less than positive by giving > it NO feedback at all. No one needs to get drawn into > any conflict they do not wish to participate in. No > one has to get down and roll in the mud except those > who obviously *like* rolling in the mud. > > This is what I'm going to try to do. Others can do as > they please. My experience is that when forums have to > descend to having someone act as official "moderator," > to fight the negativity, that's pretty much the end > of the forum. I'd hate to see that happen to FFL. But > when the *members* of the forum just take it upon > *themselves* to support the posts they deem positive > via feedback, and to *not support* the posts they > consider negative, via NO feedback, the negative > situation tends to work itself out within a few short > months. The compulsive flamers and arguers go somewhere > else to get their argument "fix," because they can't > get it on a forum on which almost no one responds to > their provocations. > > Again, it's a simple formula, based on an age-old > spiritual truth: "What you focus on you become." > > If you want to become argumentation, focus on (and > respond to) the posts that are calculated to start an > argument. If you want to become harmony and positivity, > focus on (and respond to) only the posts that contain > those qualities. > > Good luck. > > > > > > > To subscribe, send a message to: > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Or go to: > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ > and click 'Join This Group!' > Yahoo! Groups Links >
