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Michelle, I would like you to know I so
very appreciate your advise – since I am feeling very subjective on this
topic, sometimes, I don’t see things in such a manner which can put my
cats at risk and so I so appreciate your and Merry’s objective evaluation
on the issue --- more than anything, I am grateful for you spending every second
thinking about my situation with my kitties. One time, I mentioned to Greg (who is also
a lawyer), “Honey, I think I can be a pretty good lawyer, because I can
make a good argument” – and he looked at me and said “is that
what you think about lawyers?”, and I said “yeah… they argue,
that’s what they do”.. and Greg said,,,”arguing does not
necessary make a good lawyer, in my career, I have spent more time negotiating for
my clients and the opponents and mediating the situations so that people decide
to meet somewhere in the middle --- he is a PI lawyer, and does some criminal
and domestic relations.. and lots of times, it’s about “mediation”
--- and he is so good at it, too --- so for the same reason, I really
appreciate you trying to direct me to the direction which will be safest for my
cats --- as I said before, I can get so stuck with being right,, and don’t
do what IS right sometimes… Hideyo From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On
Behalf Of Nina Live and learn, eh, Michelle? Isn't it
interesting how we seem to find ourselves in positions that force us to work on
our less than strong points? Just to be clear, I am not very good
at staying calm myself and do feel quite angry about what people have been
putting Hideyo and other rescuers through. But as a lawyer I know I have
to evaluate all the options in terms of chances of success and amounts of risk,
and that is alI I was advocating doing. I actually have been accused by
colleagues of having "hair trigger responses" at times rather than
taking a step back and figuring out a more measured response, and it is
something that I constantly struggle with. I am learning it a lot more
now, because my new job is almost entirely policy work, and I am working on
large issues that I have to negotiate with state agencies about, where there is
not much recourse beyond convincing them to do the right thing. I am more used
to negotiating with agencies over issues that arise in individual cases, where
there is something I can go to court about if the negotiations do not get a
favorable resolution. But now I am negotiating about new policies that are not
actually prohibited or mandated by law, and without individual clients, and it
feels a lot different. I can't just stop negotiating at some point and say I
will take it before a judge. I have to just keep calm and keep
negotiating. It is a new and somewhat uncomfortable position for me, the
zealous advocate, but I think it is an important skill to be able to draw
on. There may be times that I have ended up in court with clients where I
did not have to if I had been a better negotiator. Michelle In a message dated 2/4/2006 5:04:16 P.M. Eastern
Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED]
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- RE: Another disaster Hideyo Yamamoto
- Re: Another disaster Lernermichelle
- RE: Another disaster Hideyo Yamamoto
