Why not ask him to foster? Short term care will allow him to know if he really wants a cat or not...or can afford one. I'd be leary to adopt one of mine to him...but wouldn't rule it completely out....people do and can grow. (I've been unemployed and know how scarry that can be...sometimes turning an animal back into a shelter, as horrible as it is...is more humane than dumping it (most people don't know about rescues...or how to get in contact with them...then just try finding a good one that has room and will agree to take the cat...heck, I've met numberous people that didn't realize pounds actually KILLED the unwanted animals- God's truth!)...or having it euthanized right off...if you wind up on the streets...what kind of a life is THAT for someone you love? If he IS to adopt again, it should be from a rescuer and not a shelter...that way the rescuer can stay in touch. I ALWAYS offer to take an animal I've adopted out, back, at ANY TIME during their lives, no judgement on the adopter. Its hard, but that way I KNOW the whereabouts of the animal...I also keep in touch as much as possible. Cards every year...or a phone call, e-mails <hi Anne!>, give and get info. everytime one of them or myself moves. Its difficult, but...its worked out well for most of my ex-charges. I still know the whereabouts of about 70% of them....and have re-homed approx. 5% of that 70%. And yes, I worry about the other 30%..but, we can only do what we can do.... Please don't reply with any kind of seemingly self-rightous, or judgemental answer. We can not educate the public if we come off holier-than-thou and belittle them. All that serves is making us (rescuers) look like nuts and those who actually thought to seek advice (a GOOD sign really)...once turned away in that manner, will be adverse to seek out advice in the future for fear of belittlement and will just continue to repeat the ol' "love-um & leave-um" patterns...making more work for us in the future. Good luck. T
Kelley Saveika <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: I would not adopt to him if he dumped the cat. I am just trying to figure out how to answer his question - is being lonely a good reason to adopt a cat? I guess my question is what happens if he gets a girlfriend and is no longer lonely, is the cat going to end up ignored? On 1/17/07, Kelly L <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: At 08:37 AM 1/17/2007, you wrote: STRANGE INDEED. I would find out where this person got rid of the cat and if it was the SPCA should never be adopted out ot, My response would be Please take that love and go volunteer at the shelter . Kelly lane This is an email I got. I've been thinking about how to respond for a while and still can't figure it out. <i>Hi, This may seem odd, but I figured you guys would probably know best. I want to be a cat owner. I'm 27, a professional with no life in sight, and I love cats. I grew up with cats, back on my parents ranch, and simply adore them. I'd adopt one without any hesitation except for one problem. I adopted a cat before, and had to take him back to the rescue shelter I got him from. After almost 2 years with him it was very heart breaking, but I had lost my job, and the Bay Area of California is a fairly unforgiving place economically. My only close friend (we both moved there from Boerne, TX) said I could live with him and his girlfriend, but that I couldn't bring my cat. It still brings tears to my eyes when I think about him, as I truly did love him. I couldn't provide for him and had to give him up. I like to think that he's somewhere warm and nice, and that his new owners give him as much love and care as I did. My mother, who is a fanatical cat lover, almost disowned me, and will still cry about it. Anyway, as I've said, I'm alone, and want to adopt a cat to have someone to love, basically. I just don't know if that's a valid/healthy/good reason to want to adopt and figured I'd ask some professionals.</i> -- Rescuties - Saving the world, one cat at a time. http://www.rescuties.org Vist the Rescuties store and save a kitty life! http://astore.amazon.com/rescuties-20 No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.410 / Virus Database: 268.16.12/631 - Release Date: 1/16/2007 -- Rescuties - Saving the world, one cat at a time. http://www.rescuties.org Vist the Rescuties store and save a kitty life! http://astore.amazon.com/rescuties-20 --------------------------------- Looking for earth-friendly autos? Browse Top Cars by "Green Rating" at Yahoo! Autos' Green Center.