It does sound like this person is in need of some unconditional love and
a boost of self esteem. The fact that they are looking for advice is a
good sign, and I would do my best to not be judgmental over past
mistakes. Heaven knows we've all made mistakes that we're not proud
of. I wouldn't feel comfortable adopting anyone out to them though.
Certainly not before they somehow showed me that they've accepted
responsibility for what happened, (all the "out of my control" excuses
show they're not quite there yet) and were resolved to never do the same
thing again. I think if after further investigation I felt confident
that they were now trustworthy, I'd consider the idea of fostering
rather than adoption. Volunteering is a good suggestion too.
Nina
Kelley Saveika wrote:
This is an email I got. I've been thinking about how to respond for a
while and still can't figure it out.
<i>Hi,
This may seem odd, but I figured you guys would
probably know best. I want to be a cat owner. I'm
27, a professional with no life in sight, and I love
cats. I grew up with cats, back on my parents ranch,
and simply adore them. I'd adopt one without any
hesitation except for one problem.
I adopted a cat before, and had to take him back to
the rescue shelter I got him from. After almost 2
years with him it was very heart breaking, but I had
lost my job, and the Bay Area of California is a
fairly unforgiving place economically. My only close
friend (we both moved there from Boerne, TX) said I
could live with him and his girlfriend, but that I
couldn't bring my cat. It still brings tears to my
eyes when I think about him, as I truly did love him.
I couldn't provide for him and had to give him up. I
like to think that he's somewhere warm and nice, and
that his new owners give him as much love and care as
I did. My mother, who is a fanatical cat lover,
almost disowned me, and will still cry about it.
Anyway, as I've said, I'm alone, and want to adopt a
cat to have someone to love, basically. I just don't
know if that's a valid/healthy/good reason to want to
adopt and figured I'd ask some professionals.</i>
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