Michelle, Please don't cut us off because you are offended by a response. In my heart, I truly believe that response wasn't meant to hurt you. We all need friends who are direct and who tell us exactly what they think - even if it is painful - and not just to tell us what they think we want to hear. You are going through so much pain right now - and taking on Lucy's pain as your own too. You don't need to go through this alone.
I think you are doing the right thing by getting input from a lot of different sources - the letter from your healer friend really touched my heart. We all have very different opinions on a number of things - but we all agree on this: we care very much. Please allow us the opportunity to be there for you. My heart is with you, elizabeth On 2/4/07, [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
I do not often get offended by this list, and I know I am in a bad state to begin with. But I really take offense at this thing people always say, which at least one of you has said to me in my questioning what to do about euthanasia, that I need to ask if I am keeping her here for me or for her. We are talking about ending a life. Believe me, if I could actually tell that it would be the best thing for her, I would do it. As painful as it will be to be without her, it is also painful to watch her deteriorate. What I am trying to figure out is what is best for her, not what is best for me. Taking someone's life should not be done lightly, and if someone seems to be getting some enjoyment out of life, I think it is a totally fair question to ask if it is right to take their life at this time or if it is better to wait, for their own sake. For Lucy's sake. So I appreciate any insights about that, but I am going to stop asking for opinions here, because I don't think that just because I have different standards about euthanasia it means I am doing it or not doing it "for me" and being selfish. I could say the same thing, if I wanted, about people who euthanize as soon as they know something is terminal-- most people can not deal with hospice care or watching the decline of someone they love, so maybe they just euthanize "for themselves." Enough. I will deal with this on my own if that is the kind of answer I am going to get. I will stay offline now until this is over. Michelle
