>>>It just seems like if everyone is really so concerned about all the kitties out there in the world, they would stay on this list just to possibly save a few more of them, even if those kitties belong to people you don't agree with. <<<
It's important to stress that people did not leave because of others "not agreeing" with them. They left as a result of quite unwarranted personal attack, that began with just one person, then spread like a contagion. As one of these remarkable people-- and, remember they themselves were usually in the same desperate situation of doing everything they could to save their very sick pets -- said, just by mere dint of the fact that this is a feline leukemia list, people on the list are vulnerable---they're scared for their dying animals. To be insensitive to that fact, and disrespectful to one's co-members, is plain unacceptable. Free speech or not. It costs nothing to engage brain before tapping keyboard and hitting send. A practical and important point: every email sent to the list, the Qs and the As, is archived. Since most of the questions asked on the list have already been asked and patiently answered over and over again -- remember, the people who left the list were among the kindest and most supportive and responsive people imaginable, acutely aware of the vulnerability and desperation of new members with newly diagnosed FeLV cats -- the archive is a truly invaluable resource. I would strongly encourage all new members to check out the archives. If anyone would like me to give them some of the names of highly experienced and well-informed former listmembers to look out for in the archives in order to narrow down the material, please email me off list and I'll be happy to oblige. Kerry M. -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Megan Heikkinen Sent: Wednesday, September 26, 2007 6:23 PM To: felvtalk Subject: RE: offlist Of course it isn't a job. It's an online mailing list intended for sharing of information and support. In no way whatsoever is it like a job. If it feels like one, something is wrong. Really, being on this list and responding to people should not take up that much time, unless you let it. If you DO spend a lot of time helping people, then that shows what a good, caring person you are. But in no way is anyone obligated to spend hours responding to every single question. No one is really obligated to do anything on here, but people do because they care. Because this is an online list, it's really, really easy to ignore people. It's also very, very easy to speak your mind. Internet drama is so easy to spark up. I've seen it many a time before. The point is, yes, things said on here can get people pissed off or upset. And I understand, it's not fun doing all that hard work out in the real world and then coming home to see all of this animosity in your mailbox. It can be exhausting. If it truly is a "toxic" environment, then leaving would probably be a good idea. It would just be a damn shame to lose people simply because everyone can't get along. It just seems like if everyone is really so concerned about all the kitties out there in the world, they would stay on this list just to possibly save a few more of them, even if those kitties belong to people you don't agree with. -Megan >===== Original Message From Kelley Saveika <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> ===== >But this isn't anyone's *job*. Yes, there has been talk on other >lists about what will happen to the newbies here without the benefit >of many of the people who have left. But if someone finds it a toxic >environment I'm not going to tell them it is their responsibility to >be somewhere they find unpleasant. Most of us work in rescue, or have >multiple sick cats, etc and have a very low tolerance for the stuff >that has been going on here lately. _____________________________________________________________________________ Effective September 1, 2007, we have changed our name to Mayer Brown LLP. IRS CIRCULAR 230 NOTICE. Any advice expressed above as to tax matters was neither written nor intended by the sender or Mayer Brown LLP to be used and cannot be used by any taxpayer for the purpose of avoiding tax penalties that may be imposed under U.S. tax law. If any person uses or refers to any such tax advice in promoting, marketing or recommending a partnership or other entity, investment plan or arrangement to any taxpayer, then (i) the advice was written to support the promotion or marketing (by a person other than Mayer Brown LLP) of that transaction or matter, and (ii) such taxpayers should seek advice based on the taxpayers particular circumstances from an independent tax advisor. This email and any files transmitted with it are intended solely for the use of the individual or entity to whom they are addressed. If you have received this email in error please notify the system manager. If you are not the named addressee you should not disseminate, distribute or copy this e-mail.