Dear
JoAnn
My
heart goes out to you, JoAnn. (I'm sitting here in tears as I imagine many
others were when they read of Molly's passing.) She sure did touch
people in a special way, if your Vet office staff broke down. I'm glad you
weren't on your own, when you had to give that agonizing green light. I
think it's lovely that you were able to bring Molly home for the dogs, at least,
to say goodbye. Molly's brother was probably too upset; we humans all have
different ways of dealing with our grief and I imagine animals are the
same.
I'm so
sorry that your sadness is still so overwhelming. You have had, and have, a lot
on your plate, what with the fire, your husband's illness, and Jake passing away
too. One of our shelters in Chicago, I noticed recently (Tree House) had an
article in their winter newsletter about a support group for bereaved pet
owners/guardians. I wonder if there is anything of that nature in your area. Or
perhaps someone knows of a web list? I think it would be wonderful for you to
have even some e-support in working through your grief.
The
other thing I tentatively suggest---I say tentatively because I used to be very
'anti' myself; also forgive me if I offend; it's not meant that way---is
that you might consider anti-depressants to help you through this very sad
period. I had a personal crisis thrown at me some years ago and when a
counsellor I saw strongly recommended that I consider them, I took her advice,
and they were an absolute godsend. Got me functioning again. As I say, just
something you might want to think about. Please stay in touch, and
let us know how you're doing. You are a lovely, warm person---because of
you, the world, and in particular the animal world, is better off--and we
all want you to feel strong and happy again. lots and lots of love and hugs,
JoAnn,
Kerry
-----Original Message-----
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of JoAnn Fredo
Sent: Thursday, December 09, 2004 1:20 AM
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: Molly Fredo has gone to the bridge
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of JoAnn Fredo
Sent: Thursday, December 09, 2004 1:20 AM
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: Molly Fredo has gone to the bridge
It's been a long time , and I have put off sending this e-mail. My beloved
Molly when to the Bridge on August 31, 2004. She battled lymphoma for 3 years
only to have Felv rear its ugly head and take her from us.She was doing so well,
the lymphoma was in remission for 3 years. I came home from work one Sunday
night and she didn't still quite like herself, she always greeted me at the
door. I didn't think much of it, we had an appointment at the Vets on Thursday
and she didn't seem to be in any distress, just alittle off. When we went to the
Vets she had a temp and her WBC was high, they put her on antibiotics. On friday
she was worse, she just laid there not movig, I took her back to the Vets.
Her temp was higher and so was her WBC. They wanted to keep her over night(she
had never spent a night away from us, it VERY difficult) The next
morning(Saturday) her fever was higher and they recommended we have her spend
the weekend at the emergency/critical care Vet in cas! e her temp increased.
That Monday she had an Ultrasound the lymphoma was nowhere to be found, it was
the Felv making her sick. we brought her home, at first she was almost like her
old self, slept with us and loving us. then she didn't want to eat, and stop
drinking water. we knew it was time to say good-bye.Our Vet was going to come to
the house, but ask us to take her there to put in an IV line to make it easier,
and then they would come to our house. Once we got there we didn't want to put
her through any more stress, we had them send her to the bridge.(this may sound
stupid or hard to explain but I felt at peace because they were crying at my
Vets office when we sent Molly to the Bridge, this made me realize how my
lives she had touched.) We brought Molly home for the dogs and her brother to
see her, it was strange, all the dogs licked her goodbye. but her brother Toots
would not go near her. I still cry every day I miss her so. The last 2 years
have been difficult, our ! house caught on fire, my husband has prostate cancer,
but Molly's death has affected me more than all of this. She was my light, my
symbol of hope, I feel so lost. It has been 3 months and I still
cry everyday, one of my dogs(little Jake)died Oct 21st, I loved him we had
12 years together, but I only had 12 days from the time Molly got sick
until the time we had to say goodbye. Molly had her own pillow between my
husband's and mine, we have not been able to wash the pillow case, we have been
arguing alot lately and I know its because we are dealing with Molly's loss in
different ways.I never in a million years thought a little cat would affect me
so.Thank you for allowing me to vent and there is life with feline leukemia and
lymphoma.
JoAnn
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