While generally inclined to defer to those who are older and wiser, I, too, am learning Flex from a "standing start" and have found the several series available on Lynda.com very valuable.
I assume that you also know about the "Flex in a Week" video series freely available online from Adobe. Lastly, I have worked a bit with the Flashbuilder 4 beta. I acknowledge it's superiority, but very little of what you learn in Flexbuilder 3 will be wasted time, and because you _are_ just starting out and the _videos_on_Flex_3_are_available_now I would dive in and get to learning. Good luck! Tex

