asalamualikum... http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showthread.php?t=2448 *Al-Ghuloo (Extremism) and Shiddah (Harshness)* by: *Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan*حفظه الله Delivered on: Saturday July 1st, 2006
*Evidence from the Sunnah for Being Gentle and Lenient when Calling to Allaah* The Shaykh حفظه الله after mentioning these evidences from the Qur'aan, he went on to mention some evidences from the Sunnah that indicate the importance of being gentle. The first hadeeth is the hadeeth of `Aa’ishah رضي الله تعالى عنها who narrates that *"There were some Jews who entered upon the Prophet* صلى الله عليه وسلم *and they said to the Prophet* صلى الله عليه وسلم *“Assaamu 'alaykum” (may death be upon you). (The Prophet* صلى الله عليه وسلم *replied by saying "wa 'alaykum [and upon you]) `Aa’ishah*رضي الله عنها * replied by saying "wa 'alaykum, and upon you is the curse of Allaah and may His anger be upon you." So when the Prophet* صلى الله عليه وسلم *heard this from `Aa’ishah* رضي الله عنها *he said to her: "Mahlan yaa `Aa’ishah (take it easy O `Aa’ishah) and beware of having harshness and being indecent" `Aa’ishah* رضي الله عنها *said to him: "Did you not hear what they said to you?" The Prophet* صلى الله عليه وسلم* replied to her: "And did you not hear what I said to them? I said ‘wa 'alaykum’. I said and may it be upon you, and my du’aa will be answered and theirs will not.” *[1] So the Shaykh حفظه الله said that in this hadeeth there is an indication of how we are to interact with people who transgress and that is because the Muslim at many times he has to use the أسلوب (*usloob*) or the way of * encouraging*, or تَرْغِيْب (*targheeb*) (meaning: awakening of a desire, encouragement, or to instill a desire). And the Shaykh حفظه الله said that sometimes it may be that the Muslim has to use what is known as الترهيب (* at-tarheeb*) (to scare an individual). These are two different أساليب (* Asaaleeb*), or ways, that one would use. Also, the Shaykh حفظه الله said that 'Aa’ishah رضي الله عنها our mother, the mother of the believers, and the wife of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said in another hadeeth that *"The Messenger of Allaah* صلى الله عليه وسلم *said that, “gentleness is not placed in anything except that it beautifies it and that it is not removed from anything except that it makes that thing ugly”." *[2] The Shaykh حفظه الله said that in this second hadeeth is a clarification that the characteristics of gentleness - of being lenient - must *constantly * be with an individual. The individual must always have this; whether it is in his relationship with himself, his relationship with his Lord سبحانه وتعالى or his relationship with other people. We see that this hadeeth, Subhaanallaah, is very concise, and that is because Allaah سبحانه وتعالى indeed gave His Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم what is known as جوامع الكلم (* Jawaamil-kalim*) or the ability to say very few words that have a very profound meaning. The Shaykh حفظه الله went on to say that in this hadeeth where it says that *ar-Rifq *(leniency) is not in شيءٍ (*Shay’in*) or “anything”… this word, “anything” (*Shay’in*) is an indefinite noun and it has come in what is known as سياق النهي (siyaaq-an-nahee) or in a negative context. Because he said that it is *not* put in anything. So, in the Arabic language when you have an indefinite noun that comes in a negative context, then it is that we benefit from it that this is something very general, that it is something *all inclusive*. And from another angle, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used a restrictive form or a restrictive language, which is known as حصر (*hasr*) so this proves to us, or this shows us - that the individual must use gentleness and leniency in all of his relationships. Likewise, in the last part of the hadeeth, where it says: *…and it is not removed…* (meaning gentleness, leniency) *… is not removed from anything except that it makes that thing ugly. *… likewise here, we have the same situation that we had previously: *it is not removed from anything …* where “anything” is an indefinite noun. It comes in the negative context, so what is benefited from it is that it is general and all inclusive. So the individual, *any individual, if he does not use gentleness in his affairs then usually what we find is that the result of that affair will not be something that is praiseworthy, rather it is something that will be negative and evil*, and Allaah سبحانه وتعالى knows best. *Evidence from the Sunnah for Being Gentle and Lenient when Ruling over the People* The Shaykh, حفظه الله said that the next hadeeth that we are going to deal with is also narrated by 'Aa’ishah رضي الله تعالى عنها who said, *"I heard the Messenger of Allaah* صلى الله عليه وسلم *say in this house of mine making this du’aa: 'O Allaah, whoever is given the authority over my Ummah in anything, and he causes some adversity or he causes some hardship to them, then cause hardship for him. O Allaah, whoever from amongst this Ummah is responsible or is given authority over anything or over any part of my Ummah and he is gentle with them, then be gentle with him’.” *[3] This hadith indicates that everyone who is in a position of authority over the people should be gentle and lenient so that he can gain what the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم mentioned in this hadeeth. If he uses harshness, if he is hard, then the da'wah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم will be against him. As the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said in that hadeeth: *"whoever is difficult, whoever is hard in dealing with any part of my ummah that he is responsible for, then be hard upon him.” *He makes this du’aa to Allaah سبحانه وتعالى. However, if he uses gentleness, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم made du’aa to Allaah سبحانه وتعالى for* "the one who is gentle and lenient with those who he is responsible for, then O Allaah, be gentle and lenient with him." * So *whoever causes adversity to the people that are under his care*, whoever is hard with those who he is responsible for, then *Allaah سبحانه وتعالى will be hard with him*. And that harshness from Allaah سبحانه وتعالى, that adversity that Allaah سبحانه وتعالى may inflict upon His servant may be in his body, it may relate to his body: it may be his sight, it may be his hearing or it may be upon his tongue. It may be that it relates to his financial situation. 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