Does weeping and shedding tears for the deceased cause him any harm? Praise be to Allah.
It was narrated in more than one hadeeth from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that the deceased suffers because of the weeping of his family over him. For example, Muslim narrated in his Saheeh (927) from Ibn ‘Umar that Hafsah wept for ‘Umar, and he said, “Calm down, O my daughter! Do you not know that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘The deceased suffers because of his family’s weeping over him’?” And it was also proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wept for the deceased on more than one occasion, such as when he wept at the death of his son Ibraaheem, as was narrated by al-Bukhaari (2/105) and Muslim (7/76) from the hadeeth of Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him). He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also wept at the death of one of his daughters, whilst she was being buried, as was narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1258 from the hadeeth of Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him). And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wept when one of his grandchildren died, as narrated by al-Bukhaari (1284) and Muslim (923), from the hadeeth of Usaamah ibn Zayd (may Allaah be pleased with them both). If it is asked, how can we reconcile between the hadeeths which forbid weeping for the deceased and those which permit it? The answer is: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) explained that in a hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari (7377) and Muslim (923) from Usaamah ibn Zayd, according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wept for the son of one of his daughters. Sa’d ibn ‘Ubaadah said: “What is this, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “This is compassion which Allaah puts in the hearts of His slaves. Allaah shows mercy to those of His slaves who are merciful.” Al-Nawawi said: What this means is that Sa’d thought that all kinds of weeping were haraam, and that shedding tears was haraam. He thought that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had forgotten that, so he reminded him. But the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) explained that simply weeping and shedding tears is neither haraam nor makrooh, rather it is compassion and is something good. What is haraam is wailing and lamenting, and weeping that is accompanied by one or both of these actions, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah does not punish for tears that are shed or for sorrow in the heart, rather He punishes or shows mercy because of this” – and he pointed to his tongue. Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah was asked – as it says in al-Fataawa, 24/380 – whether the weeping of a mother or brothers and sisters has any effect on the deceased. He said: “Rather there is no sin in tears shed by the eyes and sorrow in the heart, but lamenting and wailing are forbidden.” With regard to weeping for the deceased even after some time has passed, there is nothing wrong with that, so long as it is not accompanied by wailing, lamenting or feeling displeased with the will and decree of Allaah. Muslim (976) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) visited the grave of his mother and wept, and those who were around him also wept. He said: “I asked my Lord for permission to pray for forgiveness for her, and He did not give me permission; and I asked Him for permission to visit her grave and He gave me permission. So visit the graves, for they will remind you of death.” And Allaah knows best. From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Khurram Shahzad Sent: Thursday, April 16, 2009 12:15 PM Subject: || Fö©ü§ Öñ ϧläm || Weeping at death of loved one [Hadith] A’Hadiths Guidance from The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) Usamah bin Zaid (r.a.) narrated: ‘The daughter of the Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him) sent for him as her child was dying, but the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) returned the messenger and sent her good wishes saying, "Whatever Allah takes away or gives, belongs to Him, and everything with Him has a limited fixed term (in this world), and so she should be patient and anticipate Allah's reward.'' She again sent for him adjuring him for the sake of Allah to come. The Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him), accompanied with Hadrat Saad bin Ubadah, Hadrat Muadh bin Jabal, Hadrat Ubayy bin Kaab, Hadrat Zaid bin Thabit and some other companions (r.a.) went to see her. The child was lifted up to the Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him) while his breath was disturbed in his chest. On seeing that, the eyes of the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) streamed with tears. Hadrat Saad (r.a.) commented "O Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him)! What is this?'' The Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him) replied, "It (the tears) are compassion which Allah has placed in the hearts of His slaves! Allah is Compassionate only to those among His slaves who are compassionate (to others)". Related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.Hadith quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Hadith # 20) Commentary: 1. Gathering of all the relatives is not necessary at the time of someone's death. However, their participation in the funeral prayer is Mustahab Fard Kifayah (a desirable collective duty upon all Muslims; but which is sufficient or equivalent to all having performed it if it is performed by only some of them). 2. To shed tears on at a loved one’s death, and to exhort the relatives of the deceased for patience and accountability are permissible acts. 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