Just to further bend this thread: 

 

Glen Wrote

all seem to have fairly stark differences between what they say they teach
their children and what they actually teach their children.  The issues run
the gamut of everything from racism, to diet, to work ethic, and money
management.

Between any parent-child pair, there can be 4 possible oscillations:

P^intent to C^intent, P^intent to C^behavior, P^behavior to C^intent,
P^behavior to C^behavior.

 

This is an interesting model so long as we remember that  " Intending"
,"saying what they teach", "actually teaching" are all behaviors, each
occurring in its own circumstances and with its own reward contingencies.
The behaviors that we identify with "intent" tend to occur in the context of
justification, whereas the behaviors we identify with "behavior" tend to
occur in the context of action.  Telling what I intend to teach tends to
occur when I am talking to other adults; the actual teaching tends to occur
when only children are around.  Furthermore, when you say to a child, "do as
I say, not as I do", do they learn to do what you say, to do what you do, or
to say, "Do as I say, not as I do."  Or all three.  

 

It would be interesting to look at the four potential kinds of "inheritance"
as the model suggests we do.  

 

I await your paper in JSPP.  

 

Nick 

 

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Steve Smith wrote at 04/28/2013 05:50 PM:

> The second argument is that while

> generations in the sense of a labeled X, Y, Z or "greatest" is a bit 

> trite and seems contrived, there is often (maybe more historically 

> than

> contemporarily) a natural oscillation between parent and child.  The 

> old adage "some things skip a generation" is apt in my experience... 

> for example, my own father rebelled against certain aspects of my 

> grandfather's nature which I in turn rebelled against, roughly 

> returning full circle to certain aspects of my grandfather's nature 

> (e.g. My grandfather was an avid journaler and correspondent while my 

> father probably wrote no more than 3 letters in his life, each one 

> fitting onto less than a single sheet of paper).  It also seems 

> (anecdotally) true that parents try to give *their* children what *they*
didn't have...

> again leading to an oscillation in many dimensions with a time 

> constant of roughly the age of reproduction.

 

I often wonder how much of this is perceived oscillation versus actual
oscillation.  My skepticism revolves around 1) evo-devo as well as 2)
intention vs. actuality. Re (1), when I was a kid, the distinction between
my parents' ideology and behavior seemed _huge_, at both a very young age
all the way through the first half of my 20s.  However, as I hacked my way
through the latter half of my 20s, and through my 30s, I began to notice
_jarring_ similarities ... to the point, now, that it's difficult for me to
distinguish.  My behaviors are more starkly different than my ideology
(ideologies, if you allow that the human mind

-- or just my mind -- is inconsistent).  But, the older I get, the more
capable I become of both contrast and comparison with the surrounding
"generations".

 

Re (2), my parents (and their parents ... and the parents of my generation
as well as Renee's grandchildren's parents) all seem to have fairly stark
differences between what they say they teach their children and what they
actually teach their children.  The issues run the gamut of everything from
racism, to diet, to work ethic, and money management.

Between any parent-child pair, there can be 4 possible oscillations:

P^intent to C^intent, P^intent to C^behavior, P^behavior to C^intent,
P^behavior to C^behavior.

 

And this ignores the social pressures that surely must come into play.

(E.g. the influence of the parents of my frenemies, both directly and
indirectly, or the influence of pop culture, etc.)

 

In short, without some more comprehensive data, the complexity of the
possible relationship dynamics seems to be ripe for selective attention,
confirmation bias, motivated reasoning, etc.

 

> There *is* some batching, first correlated with the staging and 

> returning-from wars... and the second is simply the second order 

> effect of THOSE children coming of age and having their own 15-30 years
later.

> 

> [...] So, I agree that the broad brush of "generation this or that" is 

> a convenient shorthand at best and a harmful fiction at worse.

 

The question is how much of the batching is a result of the measure (the

model) and how much is ontologically present?  What I find most useful are
the biochemical measures.  E.g. increased life span, increased cancer,
increased rate of cancer survival, etc.  I think if we can make an argument
for generational binning, it should be in the context of those measures
rather than (purely) cultural ones.  (All these measures have cultural
influences, of course.)

 

> Returning to the original context of my suggestion that it is time for 

> a younger generation than my own to take up the reins, I hold to that.  

> We "boomers" have proven on average to have a certain kind of 

> narcissism as well-earned as the "greatest" generation had a 

> simple-minded selflessness.

 

The _only_ thing that makes me wish the "longevity" people were onto
something (or that maintains the tiny shred of fantasy about vampires I have
left) is the idea that I could actually _watch_ any type of evolution with
some level of objectivity, however minimal.  Although I tend toward Taoism,
my engineering homunculus rants and raves at not being able to separate
myself from the morass around me.  And for that reason, I agree with you
about younger people taking over.  The handful of people I've "mentored",
for better or worse, and watched go on to do better than me (at everything)
turned me on to the feeling.  And that feeling then extended to everyone,
including young people anonymous to me.  I really enjoy hearing Renee' talk
about how this or that doctor is "just a baby", or hearing about some high
school kid solving a long-standing math problem, etc.  ... makes me want to
freeze my head before I die. 8^)

 

--

=><= glen e. p. ropella

If there's something left of my spirit

 

 

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