You have *nothing* to apologize for. As Steve hinted, I suspect most, if not 
all, of us cringe a bit when reading our own stuff (or even hearing our own 
voice: 
https://www.theguardian.com/film/2019/dec/18/adam-driver-walk-out-interview-npr-fresh-air-voice).
 I have 3 stories explicitly related to the point: 1) Something I once wrote 
offended so many people, it earned me the nickname "Nazi", the story of which 
held a prominent place in my friend's PhD dissertation. 2) While supporting 
Swarm, something I wrote offended a person so much, they *demanded* an apology 
from the group. And 3) a good friend and mentor once called me a "digital 
austistic" due to my seeming insensitivity in online interaction versus my 
seeming sensitivity in meat space.

I won't tell any of those stories, here, to save y'all from yet another TMI 
share. But I can say I don't regret any of those utterings. Would I say them 
now? No. But that's precisely *because* they were learning experiences. The 
only thing that prevents learning experiences is the *lack* of engagement. So, 
as long as you stay engaged, then apologies are surplus sugar that none of us 
really need ... though some of us -- not me -- really like sugar. 8^)

On 12/30/19 2:19 PM, [email protected] wrote:
> Here I am, renewing my apology for yet a third time, it seems. 
> 
> I was actually preaching my belief that we come to friam for different 
> things, and nobody should try to dictate what FRIAM is about.  But I sure as 
> hell had a strange way of putting it!  I am so grateful for Steve’s 
> contemporary correction, which says precisely what I wish I had said.
> 
> I have written to the list.  If I need to do anything more to regain your 
> trust, please let me know. 
> 
> All the best, and thank you for your many insights, some of which are on 
> matters I understand. 
> 
> I look forward to understanding more.

-- 
☣ uǝlƃ

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