Re: [Futurework] RE: clarification of language

[Darryl and Natalia]

Hi Keith,     I didn't call you an angel, but you needn't ascribe to yourself strictly selfish motives either. Giving to get doesn't work, of course, but you are arrogant to think that you are incapable of selfless acts. I use the word arrogant to signify fear of the capacity you  do have.     I agree that real love is reciprocal if you are talking about genuine loving relationships. Crushes develop out of insecurities around your own self-worth, much like idolatry, in which one hopes to steal from another what they think they are lacking in themselves. Usually, these relationships fail once the inevitable let-downs occur, and end quite bitterly.     Then there's the giving of one's time, an act of "love", to help out or to make a dif- ference.     There are many forms of the one strength or force I call love. It is not only what works best, it is ultimately the only thing that does work.     Respect for others and common decency are attributes of this same word you are reticent to define. One should hardly go about pretending to love everyone for some New Age splat gun goal attainment. Love develops out of spending time with people, and compassion is that which will affect a stranger.   All for now, Natalia     ----- Original Message ----- From: Keith Hudson To: Darryl and Natalia Cc: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, June 12, 2003 4:11 AM Subject: Re: [Futurework] RE: But where's the mind? Hi Natalia, M'mm . . . well, I'm gratified by what you write, of course. But actually I'm fully as selfish as everybody else. Everything I do is for selfish reasons. I write on FW for selfish reasons because it's a very convenient method of clarifying one's thoughts -- and also learning from others. However: back to the "laws of love": I'm a firm believer that love is a reciprocal transaction. Unrequited love doesn't last long -- at least not outside the story books! Keith Keith Hudson, 6 Upper Camden Place, Bath, England