Most of us are so hung up on sending and getting asls, stats, prefs, got place and not my type - messages, that it becomes vexing after a while and I wished to be in a zone where those criterion didn't matter to meet another gay man. Although I had attended some gay parties after coming to Mumbai, this would be the first time where I would be interacting with a bunch of guys and discussing about homosexuality openly.
"I suppose it must have taken a lot of courage to come to a meet like this", Umang asked me. I replied there was no question of courage since I badly wanted to attend one of these meets more than anything else. The group was of around twenty people and the meet happened at one of the GayBombay member's house. His mother was also there and I thought it was indeed very brave and understanding of her to allow something like this at their place. After we all gave our intros, his mother was asked about how she was dealing with her son's coming out and I listened to her with heavy heart as her words echoed the feelings of my mother <http://samsbloginess.blogspot.com/2009/03/and-i-came-out-to-my-mother.h\ tml> . I just hope that at least starting from our generation, when couples become parents, they wake up to the fact that homosexuality is a reality and that their new born could be gay; so that they could be prepared and more tuned to accept the truth later on. Then our discussion steered towards different scenarios of gay life why do people find it difficult to be in relationship even when they long to be in one, how much of an issue is lack of sex in a relationship and how important is sex for a relationship to work, what pick up lines would one use to get a guy fora date and what was the cheesiest that one had to encounter, how would your friendship with your gay friend be affected if he marries a gal and what could be the best approach if one comes to know that his best friend's guy is sleeping around. And lastly, it was heartening to hearwhen they shared their thoughts on how much GayBombay has helped each of them in becoming what they are now, in accepting their sexuality and also blessing them with some everlasting friendships. I feel these kind of meets could bea great relief for many closeted gays if they dare to attend, coz this gives a platform to make themselves realize that they are not alone anda friendship is just a `hi' away and also that meeting other gay guys doesn't always have to be equated with sex. Crazy Sam's Bloginess - http://samsbloginess.blogspot.com/ <http://samsbloginess.blogspot.com/>
