Mad cow How many such men have you known so and how is interesting. And how many gay men have u known who are into relationships -- maybe your survey will help us all (if you survey is based on a sample drawn from gaydar or such you will surely recognise that the same is spurious, rt?) I have known a decent amount of men in my times (in all sorts of ways in case one wants to know) and do have some different opinions. Here we are talking of 2 things 1- being gay and not marrying a girl 2- being in a monogamous relation --gay or str 1- Being gay and not marrying a girl is a matter of your own conscience and right to freedom. Is the road to freedom ever easy. i guess not for most. I had the same thoughts and doubts and fears as Asif had some time back. I decided to stick to my freedom (largely helped by all te guys i met at GB then for which i do not know how to thank em all). It was not an easy way for some months at home -- but today myself and my family (and i hope my bf :p) are happy about this decision. And i know several such cases. 2- Being monogamous This is a very personal thing. Some men are monogamous, some are not. for some open relatiosn work, for some it works only if the bf is monogamous and for some its no fun to stick to just one person for sex. But in case where a person is ok with an open relation - gay or str8 - the difference lies n ability to have sex outside and still love his bf. As a frnd of mine so nicely put, he does not love his mom's food less just because he loves to eat out too! It depends if u see sex as simply or attach mor weightage to it. If u do u just need to spell it out (and pl try to give ur bf as much leeway as u expect!) I completely agree with Madcow on one thing --- do what you want as it IS your life ----but just remember not to take a seemingly short and shady road fearing a ardous journey and discover the road led to a quagmire only too late. Lastly Asif, will you be alone ahead --- likely not as all the gays who are your age today are extremely unlikely to all get into a relation at the same time or marry or commit suicide (i discount effects of an open house session with madcow here ofcourse :-D ) Cheers Manoj
--- On Sun, 13/3/11, mad cow <madc...@yahoo.com> wrote: From: mad cow <madc...@yahoo.com> Subject: Re: g_b Re: thank you guys To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, 13 March, 2011, 1:17 PM Hi Asif, whatever u wrote everything is rite i support u for that becoz i have seen gay life its just funnn nothing more then that 95% gays r the same like to change partners afte five months when fruit get rotten and old so this doesnt happens in the hetro sexual life, even a man will have relation with a man or women after marriage or vise versa with women end of the day family needs each other but this will not happen in the gay life, iam asking 95% gays is there anyone without having sex with multiple partners ??? i challenge there wont be anyone in this 95% everyone must have had multiple sex with one or the other hiding with gay partner so Asif go ahead what u think of ur life dont think of people its ur wish if any sin is there its u who going to bear it not anyone and after alll its life Enjoy it fully dont bother about others CHEERS. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Sponsored links: Rock Hard Erections. 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Fast. http://alternatemedicinestore2010.com/ar/sig From: boy_alone00 <boy_alon...@yahoo.com> To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sat, March 12, 2011 2:18:52 AM Subject: g_b Re: thank you guys --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, asif sidd <ur_sweet_ashu@...> wrote: > > > hello guys, >  > Thank you very much for all your sugesstions, per mujh mein wo himmat nahi ke > main shadi na kroon, agar shadi nahi karta hoon to kal ko akela hi rahoonga, > kyon ki gay life to jab tak jawani aur khoobsoorti hai maze degi, use ke baad > to sirf aur sirf akelapan hai life mein, agar shadi karta hoon to koi na koi > hoga mera apna, mere maa baap ke baad, rahi baat sex ki, main decide kiya hai > ke i will try with a gril before i get married. >  > Mujhe kisi ne kaha hai ke, aurat ko ek aulad dedo wo khush rahegi, aur > aulad ke hone se tum par bhi koi shaq nahi karega,maa baap bhi khush > rahenge, haan par dohri zindagi jini padegi ye baat to hai. >  > sucide ke khayal to aate rahte hain, par duniya mein kya kuch nahi hota, > shadi ke baad bhi extra marital affairs to hote hi hain, ladki ke saath nahi > to ladke ke saath hi, par pata nahi chalne dena chye kisi ko. >  > thanks >  > asif >  > >  > Asif Siddiqui > > --- On Mon, 10/18/10, hunydev dev <hunydev@...> wrote: > > > From: hunydev dev <hunydev@...> > Subject: Re: g_b I too need help- i think i am gona be in big trouble > To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com > Date: Monday, October 18, 2010, 11:57 AM > > >  > > > > > > > > Dear Asif > > > i also read Ur story. i know its not Story ,Muje pata he aap ke Dil par Kya > bit Rahihe .Asif Ye halat se me Gujar chuka hu or Mene apne aap ko Dhoka diya > Na mante Huve Bhi Kisike jasbato se khela hoo. > > Asif Mera kahana he ki Aap shadi karte he Agar aap Apni Wife ke sath Jo apna > Sab kuch Chode ke aap ke family me aati he...Uske Sapne Hote He.Uske Armano > ka Gala Mat Ghotye.aap shadi to karlenge kal unko pata chal jayega or wo aap > se alag rahne lagegi sochiye ki aabhi aap ke maa-bap ke liye aapni kurbani > de rahe he par jab aap ka rishta tutega tabhi aap ke maa bap ki izat sare > samaj me uchalegi.wo aap ko zindgi bhar kosenge .or wo ladiki ki life barbad > ho jayegi .aap ak ladke ho shayd aap sabhal jayenge par wo aurat nahi sabhal > payegi.wo kabhi aap ko maph nahi karengi ..aap jabhi unko dekhoge to aap ne > aap ko kosoge or sochenge shayd me unse shadi na karta. parents ki khushi ke > liye aap shadi karte he par kisike life se mat kheliye. > > shayad muje aap ko kahne ka koi hak nahi he par shayd kal ho na he usse aacha > aaj hi apni bat aapne mum-dad ke samne rakhdo aap khulke bat karo ki me shadi > karta hoo to do jindgi barbad karta hooo..usase aacha he me aap ni life ki > karu..kal me kisiko jimedar nahi thahrana chahta hooo... > > Aaj agar ye bat me apne parents se karta to aaj muje afsos nahi hota. > > Asif do bar sochna or decision lena baki life aap ki > > warm regards > > saumya > --- On Sat, 16/10/10, Ratish Dicunha <r.dicunha@...> wrote: > > > From: Ratish Dicunha <r.dicunha@...> > Subject: Re: g_b I too need help- i think i am gona be in big trouble > To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com > Cc: ur_sweet_ashu@... > Date: Saturday, 16 October, 2010, 11:31 PM > > >  > > > > Aap India mein kahan se hoo agar aap Mumbai se ho to aap bindas hoote > aur ma ku keyte "ma ab India mein admi admi se shadi kerne ki chut kaide > se di gahi hey to mein ek mere bachpanke dost se shadi kar ta hoon" Aur fir > bi na mane to gar chodke kahin dur bagjaoo jut mut ki shadi karo gar pe > tasvire behjo aur chiti mein lik lo" mein kush hun mhuje dhunne ki > kosihc met karo chiti dur ilake se post karna met bhulyega. > > > > From: asif sidd <ur_sweet_ashu@...> > To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com > Sent: Sat, October 16, 2010 5:49:59 PM > Subject: g_b I too need help- i think i am gona be in big trouble > >  > > > > > > > Hello guys, >  > My name is irfan, me to a gay, i am from a tredtitional muslim familiy and > "indian" too, so you people can understand how the things go in india, we > have to and have to get married one day, i am 26 now and my familiy was > asking for the marriage from last two years but i use to tell them not now, > not now. > my mother started worrying about marriage as my younger and elder brothers > got married, and due to that tension she was not keeping well, due to this > i got blackmailed emotionally and finally i said yes to marriage (The thing > which i dont wanted to do), so after getting a green signal from my side my > mother started tyo search a good girl for me and she found, she is sweet > innocent beutifull girl, and the recently i got engaged. i am not sure what > to do on my first wedding night as i am not attracted towards girls, when it > comes to guys i am a "superman" but with girls everything is down, when i > look at my wedding ring which i am wearing right now, i dont know whats gona > happen in the future, >  > Guys kya karoon yaar, bahoot jyada pareshan hoon, agar sab kuch chhod ke apni > tarah se life jieoonga to maa baap ko bahoot dukhi karoonga, which i dont > want to do, agar shaidi karoonga to use ladki ko bhi aur apne aap ko bhi > dukhi karoonga. pata nahi kya karoon, >  >  > Sochta hoon etne saare log roz marte hain acedents mein , main bhi kyon nahi > mar jata, aisi life jeene se to marna behtar hai, kuch din log royenge aur > phir bhool jayenge, >  > Shadi kar ke roz marne se achha hi hai na yaroon? > Hai koi jawab kisi ke paas? (main akela nahi hoon aise hazaron log hai kai > sawalon ke saath par jawab kisi ke paas nahi hai) >  > Haan agar hum akele hote bina familiy ke to shayed sab thik hota, par hamare > peeche hamari family hai. >  > Kya karien? > Dear Asif, where are you, you dont need to ask the world what you have to do, i have already told you,and you know it very well, that i love you more than my life, and i am not going to get married which i have already told my parents, now whether you get married or not, i am going to be there with you in same city forever and ever, its your choice you choose to stay in same flat or another.. but ashu, where are you gone, you said you will call me by monday, when you finish with interview in bombay, please ashu atleast reply to my mail, i am getting too worried and too scared.. thinking you might be in sme trouble, Ashu there is no need for you to go anywhere, i have settled down everything got a good job, just please please come back, im having a very rough time in handling my restless heart.. Come to me Ashu, i promise i will never ever trouble you, never doubt on your love never fight with you.. please come back ashu please... YoursRendu...
