This recording of a RedFM show is really worth listening to because the host manages to connect with the wife who filed a S.377 case against her husband when she learned he was gay.
https://soundcloud.com/redfm-bengaluru/disha-oberoi-explores-section-377 There has been quite a lot criticism for her actions, and sympathy for the husband, but the recording does show some of the complexities in the case. While I think its fair to wish she hadn't done this, one does get a sense from her interview of how she was driven to this by the selfish and unsupportive response she got from her husband when she asked him for a divorce. She says he said she could leave if she liked, and when she went to his parents they said the same. By putting the onus on her to leave it seems like they were trying to ensure they wouldn't have to give her a settlement - and I bet they are really regretting that today. These situations where gay men are forced into marriage with women are awful and there are victims all around, but I have to say, having spoken to some of these guys, many of them are really messed up about it, but you do find a few who are just jerks. They are so focused on themselves and their problems, they have no empathy for the women who are in this situation from no choice of their own. The families of the guys can be even worse. Quite often, they force the marriage despite full knowledge of the son being gay. Its some combination of wanting to do what society expects plus wanting to ensure their beloved sons are taken care of. I've heard of mothers who tell their sons to treat their wives as servants, but get married. It is a real sign of the poison contained in a patriarchal system that a woman can be driven to treat another woman in this way.
