*Surviving the Second Date* By Laura Snyder
Sure, the first date is important - you never get a second chance to make a first impression and all that - but it's really the second (and sometimes third) date that really decides whether you'll continue along the road to couplehood, or just call it quits. With that pressure, along with high expectations if you had a great first date, or the stress of trying to redeem yourself if you didn't, suddenly the second date is looking more nerve-wracking than the first. Here's how to not just survive, but succeed. *Make a Great Second Impression* It's important on a second date to really show you're interested in taking things further (haven't you ever wondered after a first date if they felt as strong a connection as you did?), so at first hellos make sure you say how great it is to see him or her again. But don't go overboard in your exuberance - no kiss hello, even if the first date ended with a smooch. Better to be cautious than to freak out a date who's got reservations. *Build on First-Date Success* The second date is a great opportunity to show off how well you paid attention the last time. Think back on what you talked about. Did she mention a word deadline? Or a sick cat? Or a fun weekend plan? Ask how it went and - voila! - instant connection. *Do Something Fun* While you're thinking back on your first date chat, review any interesting hobbies your date might have named and consider one of them for your second date activity. Show you can think beyond the boring dinner-and-a-movie formula in favor of catching a live band, taking a hike, or going wine-tasting. Now you look both interesting and thoughtful! *Apologize for Any First-Date Faux Pas* Grateful your date was able to overlook your drunken antics or bad mood enough to initiate a Date #2? Say so. Apologize up front (perhaps with reassurance that it was not normal behavior for you), say you want to do better this time, and then forget it and focus on making it happen. *Agree to Disagree* On the first date, you were careful to steer the conversation away from controversy. But now that you're getting to know each other better, it's okay to express your opinions (politely). By withholding your beliefs, you will avoid conflict, but you'll miss the chance to show how open-minded you are, to reveal a different side of your personality, or to learn something about what makes your date tick. Something that will surely come in handy for Date #3. *Copyright Fun Online Corporation. <http://www.funonlinecorp.com/>* -- spanx' blog: http://spankyenriquez.blogspot.com/ --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "gimik" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/gimik?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
