I must commend Cecil for his outright openness and his analytical mind on this subject of weddings. And it is true what he says, at the end of all this re-poste and re-reposte. My personal experience goes thus: My bachelor's party on the eve of my wedding was so full of fun that I could'nt hold my head up on the wedding day breakfast time. And belive me, he 'matou' (kitchen) was inhouse with the local fantastic cook (Francis and his better half Assmucao- both late) in attendance.
The groom to be was sporting longish hair and a goatee. But due to the lateness of the hour, the hall (Goan house in 1976) was the dormitory of bachelors wined and dined to the nth extent.) was full, specially when Goa was sporting no street lights nor ample personal transport system to go home in the night. And with the house full on the hall floor and the open verandah, long hair was taken as the invitation and gandmasti was not ruled out where extra effort was necessary to ward of rape. Come morning, the bachelor's evening feni intake was such that the guts in the stomach wanted to do a 100 meters sprint. And the normally appetising aroma of sannas and sorpotel was unbearable as a breakfast treat. Then there was the suit boot nuptials and the endurance of the photo-takeouting, tedeaum and the final entry to the Moira Club where the entire village of Moira was in attendance apart from the guests and relatives. (Bride and Groom being Moidekars). Every one ate and drank and the groom only drank and never had a chance to eat. Enter Aguada Taj at 11 pm. for the honey-moon bash, the need to fill the stomach was more overpowering than anything else. ( They say that one cannot make love on empty stomach- and it is true). Another hour wasted to change and go down to the restaurant to eat. Back to the AC comfort (April 24- hots on both counts) of the Taj hospitality, where am I?? was the query at 10 am next morning. Cecil is dead right. Weddings are no jokes. It takes more than one wants to give. floriano PS. Copyrights reserved. ----- Original Message ----- From: Cecil Pinto <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Friday, November 07, 2003 7:32 PM Subject: [Goanet]Sponsored Weddings... > At 11:28 PM 06-11-03 -0500, > Mervyn Lobo wrote.. > > ML > [I just can't figure out why a couple will spend more > >than they can afford on a wedding. ] > > > > CP > ++++ > Why do people buy cars they can't really afford? > And posh houses? And furnishings? > And spend the next so many years struggling with mortgages and loan > installments? > > Earlier generations lived by the "save today, to spend later" principle. > But now we spend today and pay back later. > > So your query Merwyn, goes beyond the scope of just Weddings. > > But since Weddings are being discussed... > > A typical Goan wedding is not just a union of hearts but also a union of > sorts of two families. Which brings me to your next query. > > --------- > > ML > [Secondly, a wedding is supposed to be an intimate > >occasion, one to celebrate with friends. Why would any > >couple want to make thier wedding a marketing tool > >too?] > > > CP > ++++ > Get real. > > A typical Goan wedding consists of anywhere between 400 and 800 guests. Not > just friends, but neighbours, near and distant relatives, colleagues.. > what-have-you. Like every other non-necessity expense, a wedding ceremony > is also a time to show off. One's good taste, one's class and mostly one's > access to money. Lakhs are spent on the event. Money which could be better > utilised by the couple for their future and their children. > > Every decent couple plans a small wedding. By the time the day arrives > guest lists have expanded, expectations escalated, and finally the wedding > becomes a huge affair - regardless. > > While every right thinking person agrees that it is a total waste of money, > specially for those who don't have the money, the very same people will > spend lavishly for their own, or their child's, wedding. > > On the one hand there is lots to be said for simplicity and frugality. On > the other hand every person should be entitled to one big blast in his/her > lifetime. It's a very grey area with lots of shades. > > It has been debated endlessly. What is needed is people who will stand by > their convictions and have small weddings. > > But the current trend is Big Weddings. And 'commercialisation' is bound to > creep in. If I can't afford a big wedding but am forced to (by social > norms)` then I might as well get it sponsored. A few banners and > advertisements will not hurt anyone. Everyone's happy. > > We don't complain when the local Nestle distributor sponsors the coffee > after midnight mass and puts up his banner on the wall. Nor do we complain > when the guy who prints the wedding invitations advertises his services at > the back, with his name and address boldly printed. Getting the whole > wedding sponsored is just going a step further. > > --------- > > ML > >[And lastly, I have a quick suggestion to allow Weiss > >and Lay to get a 'free' honeymoon. All they have to do > >is make a video of their first night. Their are always > >tons of people willing to pay $20 for a copy of > >amatuer video's :-)] > > > CP > ++++ > As an expert on the Adult Entertainment industry let me assure you Merwyn > that this will not work. At least not with the current scenario. At the end > of a typical Goan Wedding the bride and groom are so pooped that nobody > will pay even $1 to see the pathetic performance! > ########################################################################## # Send submissions for Goanet to [EMAIL PROTECTED] # # PLEASE remember to stay on-topic (related to Goa), and avoid top-posts # # More details on Goanet at http://joingoanet.shorturl.com/ # # Please keep your discussion/tone polite, to reflect respect to others # ##########################################################################
