Dear Robert L Drain, Hi ! This is Fatima here. Now I have gone thru your mail and followed the contents therein.
First of all I do not agree with your statement "Unfriendly Goans". It is we goans that are taken for granted where ever we go, why because we are not revengeful and more over we are peace loving goans. So please do not make this statement again that we are unfriendly goans. I am also a goan, but born and brought up in Pune. We too have many goans here and ofcourse we are helpful and are involved in alot of activities not only for the goans for all the community. Secondly now a days it is unsafe to invite a stranger (specially a foreigner) home because now a days we read of many such incidents taking place all over, The stranger at first shows a different image so much so that not only we goans but ofcourse any one will feel bad , once he gains our confidence then we are taken for a ride, so best is just a Hi and Bye relation. You have also stated in your message that you invite goans to your appartment for dinner , etc. they do accept the invitation but do not turn up. Yes, I do agree with this. May be they do not like to refuse the offer so they please you by saying yes or may be some or the other work crops up due to which they are not able to contact you. So Mr. Robert please clear your doubts about us Goans, whether we are in Goa or else where, we are always known for our humbleness. Fatima --__--__-- Message: 4 Date: Fri, 30 Jan 2004 13:57:50 +0530 From: Cecil Pinto <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Cc: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: [Goanet]Unfriendly Goans - Letter in CyberVoices - Navhind Times Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Source: http://www.navhindtimes.com/cybervoices/messages/908.htm -------unquote------ The Goan People: Unfriendly? Posted on January 27, 2004 at 03:51:19: I have been a visitor to Goa ( mainly Colva )for the past nine years, visiting two and sometimes three times a year, ( the weather is so good ), and what friendly people the Goans are, (mostly during business transactions , of course), since Tourism is a major contribution to the Indian economy. During this time , I have met many many Goans as well as all sorts of other nationalities, but sadly I have never met a Goan who I could in all Honesty call a 'Friend', We meet purely on a 'business' level. I have tried living in rented appartments, in order to try to be 'part of the local culture', but no, no this does not work either, one might as well be in a Hotel, and 'cut off ' from the reality around. I have tried inviting them to dinner at home, ( they accept the invitation, but do not turn up, or bother to contact to say please don't bother cooking for us ). Please believe, I am just an ordinary Human Being with enough courtesy to invite people to my home, or to be invited to theirs, ( which has never ever happened in Goa), Even though I have been treated with the greatest welcome and courtesy into some of the poorest, and wealthiest of homes in Arab countries, such as Morroco, Tunisia, and Egypt. This makes one wonder what the psyche of the Goan really is ! They profess to be 'Catholic', but the behaviour dispels that myth . Catholicism, ( to the uneducated ), means 'Universal' In short, The Goan welcomes the stranger from far off lands, so long as his pockets are filled with' Big Bucks', and he is ready to spend , spend, spend. In fact I have even had Restaurant owners putting the heavy hammer on me to help restock , and after being helped, they simply ask for 'more'. Though I still like the place, This next will be my last trip to Goa! I have enjoyed the sunshine, the sea, the sand, the blue skies, and smiling faces of people who really are 'friendly' , but who one could never call 'friends', To sum-up, the Goan is 'friendly', but 'Anti-social' to the 'foreigner'. Incidentally, I am a Britisher, perhaps it has something to do with it. Robert L Drain Email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] ########################################################################## # Send submissions for Goanet to [EMAIL PROTECTED] # # PLEASE remember to stay on-topic (related to Goa), and avoid top-posts # # More details on Goanet at http://joingoanet.shorturl.com/ # # Please keep your discussion/tone polite, to reflect respect to others # ##########################################################################
