I agree with Eugene and find Halur's point interesting. Does anyone
really believe that a mother from a SC/ST would actively look for an RC
Goan Brahmin for her daughter?? Don't you think she'd look around for
someone within her own ethnic/cultural/racial group? Presuming that she
does want someone "just like" her for her daughter, who would condemn
her? Is it the case that Indians look to "marry up?" I certainly did,
but that's another story. :-)))
Even as the parents of the Goan RC Brahmin wouldn't want their son to
marry a domestic worker, so the parents of a domestic worker probably
wouldn't want their daughter to marry the Goan RC Brahmin either, don't
you think?
Having said this, I also believe that to the extent that caste-ism harms
people economically it is most definitely evil and should be routed. To
the extent that people prefer to socialize with people "like themselves"
on a broad spectrum, that's universal. I'm certainly guilty of it.
Viviana
halur rasho wrote:
In the US most personals have a race preference, for
example a woman may describe herself as SWF (single
white female) seeking a SWM(single white male). Are
such people racists?
--- Eugene Correia <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Can't understand the hullabaloo over mention of
caste
in cybermatrimonials.
If one puts an ad asking for particular caste, the
person is within his/her rights. Maybe the person
wants to marrying within his/her caste.
Banning of adverts requesting that prospective
partners meet the requirements is not the answer.
The
adverts haven't hurt anyone.
Those who are looking at issues such as caste in
these
innocuous posts are people with a deep sense of
quilt.
The Times of India even had (or still has) a section
on NRI grooms. (Not sure of NRI brides). This is
just
another filter. There may be spinsters looking just
for NRIs as prospecive lifepartners.
Suppose a caste-conscious person puts an advert
without mentioning caste as a prerequisite, the
person
will be bombarded with more emails. So a filter such
as caste helps in narrowing the field.d
Why do people put "fair-skinned",
"convent-educated",
"homely", "outgoing"? These are obviously to convey
a
person's strong or plus points.
The issue of casteism needs to be tackled in a wider
scope and not just through the personal domain of
cybermatrimonials.
Eugene
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