Permanent separation is a life ling agony
Physical separation from dear , and near loved ones is a cause of immeasurable pain.The depth of feelings of deprivation of missing someone varies from our personal or blood relationship. The loss of life may be due to old age, incurable disease, freak accident, suicide, murder even natural disasters and calamities. If the loss of life is of promising young one ,then phangs of agony are inconsolable.The victim has no control over the circumstances of the unknown ,unpredictable event. When there is no chance to provide any succour or all human attempts are exhausted without effectiveness ,the level of consolation and self satisfaction is at a variance.At times the acceptance of reality is the best option to soothe our wounded psyche. It is futile to impute motives of destiny, curse, will of God , punishment for past and present deeds as reason for deaths . Resorting to self flagelation and wallowing in guilt complex is to evade the reality.How can one explain about loss of young or unborn babies ? The passing away of old and well lived lives, sick and sufferring cannot be assumed to be OK,or well earned relief. The debate over euthanasia is far from over.Absence of a total Stranger ,or the one we knew casually does not evoke the same degree of sympathy or empathy and intesity is fleeting and momentary, soon forgotten as another statistic. How seriously do we take numerous deaths occuring every day ? The lack of physical contact of seeing ,hearing, touching and loss of company makes the situation unbearable . There is not even remotest hope of ever being in any physical proximity Distractions, diversions by engaging in socially beneficial activities can take away the sting of loneliness and meanigless existence without a a objective purpose. SUCH thoughts are killing slowly than death itself and depressive attitude and behaviour can have devastating effect on mental health and well being.Those that have passed away are free from human physical torture that living ones endure and encounter.Those of us who are religiously, spiritualy oriented by deep abiding faith can weather the storms of missing loved ones.Constantly their images ,actions, expressions and thoughts engulf our waking lives and our longings, desires starve us of joy of living For some the agony is perpetual ,life long and no amount of diversions can alter their pining and rooting of physical relationship as before, if not here then in the eternal world, which reunion thought is a fantacy of our inagination only soothing balm to our aching hearts and minds The truth that everyone of us must depart on our final journey to our destinations is deliberately ignored.The searching question why me and now, has never an acceptable or satisfactory answer that will ease our tormented minds Life is a mystery and death is bigger mystery to fathom. No tears or cries ,even advancement in science can restore dead to life again, though attempts to prolong life are partially in the domain of success. No other than Christ has empowered dead to rise to life a number of times and it is promise that all the believers are bestowed with this privilege. It is this solemn promise that fills is with hope and lessens the sting of death The pain of loss and separation is personal and individual, it has no parallel or similarity in comparison.It is a matter of degree of relationship that is the barometer of sufferings and pains . Life must continue no matter what for the living existence is a reality ,however painful it may seem to be .How best to adjust ,to cope under circumstances is an individual disposition and strentght of belief and convictions.No one however powerful can escape death and that alone should strengthen our faith rather than futility of analysis, prognosis of the dreaded event Rare are the examples of persons who walk happily and snillingly on their last earthly journey.Dead are no ghosts to feared,appeased as they have no power to condition lives of living. Can we reach them through ethereal mediums, dreams ? It is again debatable and fertile human imagination Nelson Lopes Chinchinim
