Dating apps are villans ?
The brutal killing of Shradha has brought dating apps into sharp focus.People are demanding ban or strict regulations to avoid a repeat.What about marriage bereaus or adds in newspapers? Do they assure success? The decisions are made by mature and consenting adults.There are aspects of life, personality which may never be fully disclosed even in love and arranged marriages.Have there not been such ghastly incidents in legal marriages?There are happy and broken relations in anytype of normal marriages.Parents are not enemies wishing anything catastrophic for their children .Their advice, experience ,suggestions are well meaning for our welfare and they have been part and parcel of our life so long.Rushing into relationship without their consent may not be exactly a wise decision .The success ratio , comparison between dating apps ,marriage bereaus ,adds arranged or love marriages may not be eskewed. The success in relations depends upon adjustment mutual respect and common goals that need maturity and selflessness The focus is on Shradha as she is the victim who has lost her precious life in most gruesome manner. Why did she not confide in her parents rather than trying to reform a drug addict, abusive partner without proper job or financial stability Inter caste and inter religious relations whether temporary or permanent have peculiar adjustment problems .The quarrels over expense on groceries is phatetic to start with .Without a steady job he was living off her income and she should have realised it .Why did she endure physical abuse in live in relationship.?Never complained to authorities about domestic violence.?The friends in whom she confided did not come to her rescue or consider serious enough to intervene Live in relations trends are apparently normal and must be regulated.They must be registered just like a marriage.The legal rights to properties be assured.The children born or adopted in such a relation must be be considered as legitimate, sharing rightly all the inheritances. Disputes and conflicts settlement must be on the same lines as legally married couples with recourse to divorce or separation.It need to be considered as a form of marriage Why had she to bear extreme physical and mental abuse and continue to live in relations ?She was mature enough to walkout anytime and specially under circumstances but she persisted in a hopeless situation too long with nothing to look forward too. Legitimacy for lesbians and homosexuals live in relations is another issue.The western concept of live in relationshipl without biological issue, responsibility , commitment is catching up here too.The society too seem to accept this aberration as necessary evil .The selfishness in live in relations will destroy the institution of marriage and basic family unit of the society.Surrogacy and adoption make tradition and formalities redundant Nelson Lopes Chinchinim