Reserving praise ,appreciation after death It appears that sentiments ,feeli gs ,emotions get triggered more after death .Grief gets enhanced . and emotions cloud realities Customs dominate in this situation . Look at the outpouring of obituaries and overpouring output of voluminous literature. The size and content ofobituaries is proportionate to social standing of the deceased,specially a public figure like a politician.Everyone has something positive to enlarge.The defects and even valid criticism is totally muted and witheld even though it hardly matters to the deceased.The deceased person is the epitome of goodness after all. The epitaph on the tomb is neither read, seen or heard by the deceased It is for publuc consumption and sympathies are for the living relatives to be proud of.The coffins are covered with mountain of flowers.If even a flower was offered when alive ,it would have spread its fragance of worthiness. It would also motivate him to climb the heights of excellence and redouble efforts to multiply his praise worthy acts of appreciation All these normal formalities post death appear to be meaningless. The messages if meant for others they rarely have their desired effects to change the society in that directions intended.Motivation appreciation are great inspires of positive inputs Reserving, praise post death and appreciation for someone only after their death can feel like a missed opportunity. It's often said that people tend to speak most highly of others at funerals or memorials, highlighting virtues and accomplishments that may have gone unrecognized during their lives. While it's natural to reflect deeply on someone's impact after they've passed, the practice of waiting until then to express gratitude or admiration can deny individuals the chance to feel valued in real time.
Celebrating someone's positive traits and achievements while they are alive not only uplifts them but strengthens relationships and fosters mutual respect. Everyone benefits from hearing how their actions and presence positively affect others, whether through a kind word, thoughtful gesture, or their dedication to their work or family. These acknowledgments can be a source of encouragement and fulfillment. It's important to express appreciation while we still have the chance, rather than reserving it for eulogies. Genuine praise during life builds a legacy of love and respect that lasts far beyond someone's passing. Let us not wait for death to speak the words we can say today. Nelson Lopes Chinchinim Nelson Lopes Chinchinim https://lopesnelsonnat.wordpress.com
