, Niches to Perpetuate Memories of Loved Ones
After the passing of a loved one, families often seek ways to honor and perpetuate their memory. This desire may stem from gratitude, a commitment to preserving their legacy, or even a sense of guilt. However, it is always more meaningful to express love and respect while they are still alive. Inscriptions on memorials are neither seen, read, nor appreciated by those for whom they are intended. As the saying goes, "A tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude." The Church provides niches in cemeteries for the interment of remains. Some families, with the Church’s permission, choose to entomb the ashes in specially constructed structures, often in the shape of crosses. However, human remains are not sacred objects to be venerated, worshipped, or adorned with candles—such acts are not a requirement of faith or religious doctrine. This practice is often encouraged by Church authorities, appealing to emotions for financial gain rather than religious significance. A late prominent,intellectual priest once advised me to appeal to the Synod to reconsider this issue and which I did . Initially, families may visit these niches on significant occasions such as All Souls’ Day, anniversaries, or funerals. However, over time, such visits become infrequent, and no other relatives or friends feel compelled to stop at the niche. Mourners may notice a name but rarely pause to pray or recall the person’s memory. An initiative that does not bring direct spiritual or emotional fulfillment gradually loses its appeal. There are many alternative ways to honor the legacy of our loved ones—perhaps more meaningful and enduring than this tradition. Ultimately, faith teaches us that prayer remains the most powerful way to connect with and remember those who have passed away. Nelson Lopes Chinchinim . Nelson Lopes Chinchinim https://lopesnelsonnat.wordpress.com
