26-Dec-2008

Dear Friend,

Christmas is truly a family feast. At Christmas Jesus came to be at home not 
only in the family of Mary and Joseph in Nazareth, but also in the human 
family. We celebrate Christmas at home and visit family and look forward to 
family members and friends visiting us. Those close to us are considered to be 
family members and we are at home with them. Is Jesus at home with us? How can 
we make our homes like the home of Mary, Joseph and Jesus? Enjoy the company of 
Jesus in your home! -Fr. Jude
         
Sunday Reflections:–Feast of the Holy Family ‘Live for others to live together’ 
28-Dec-2008 
Ecclesiasticus: 3:-2-6, 12-14;  Colossians 3: 12-21;   Luke 2: 22-40;

Obedience seems to be an old fashioned virtue today. Families are run on more 
democratic lines today and parents usually don’t order their children to do 
things. Strict discipline and rigid rules seem out of date with today’s 
generation. Yet the first reading reminds us of the duty to respect parents 
especially in their old age. Parental authority was over stressed in the Old 
Testament and at certain times in certain cultures. Yet there is still great 
importance in the command: Honour your father and your mother. Young children 
learn through obedience shown to the parents. As they grow older there is still 
need to show respect for old age. Care and respect for old age can earn God’s 
blessings. While grown up adults are not expected to obey their elderly and 
senile parents, they still have the obligation to care for them and their needs 
as far as possible. Kindness shown to them will not go unrewarded.

Attachment
In the middle of the night a young boy wakes up in a hospital bed. He feels 
very frightened and very alone. He is suffering intense pain: burns cover forty 
percent of his body. Someone had doused him with alcohol and then had set him 
on fire. He starts crying out for his mother. The nurse leaves her night-post 
to comfort him; she holds him, hugs him, whispers to him that the pain will go 
away sooner than he thinks. However, nothing that the nurse does seems to 
lessen the boy’s pain. He still cries for his mother. And the nurse is confused 
and angry: it was his mother who set him on fire. The young boy’s pain at being 
separated from his mother – even though she had inflicted such cruelty on him – 
was greater than the pain of his burns. That deep attachment to the mother 
makes separation from her the worst experience a child can undergo. –In the 
Christian family we learn that God never comes alone, He is always accompanied 
by legions of others
 who show us something of his kindness. In the Christian family we can catch 
something of God who accepts us as we are and who keeps on loving us stubbornly 
till the end. 
Denis McBride in ‘Seasons of the Word’

The second reading taken from the letter of Paul to the Colossians speaks of 
the ideal family life and the virtues and values that should be part of every 
Christian home. To live together we have to love and respect one another. Hence 
there is need of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. We 
have to bear up with one another and be ready to forgive one another in the 
family. Especially as we live constantly with one another there is a tendency 
to take one another for granted and rub one another the wrong way often 
unintentionally. The more we try to see Christ incarnate in the home and in one 
another, the more Christ-like we will become in our dealings with one another. 
Christ is the source and foundation of our family life. Prayer keeps us in 
touch with God, and keeps the family together. 

“Make Me a Great Big Good Man Like My Daddy!”
Once a little boy of five was left alone with his father at bedtime. It had 
never happened before. After some maneuvering and a lot of fun, the father 
finally got the little boy into his night clothes, and was about to lift him 
into bed when the child said, “But daddy, I have to say my prayers.” He knelt 
down besides his bed, joined his hands, raised his eyes to heaven and prayed: 
“Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep; but should I die 
before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take.” That was his usual prayer, but 
tonight he looked at his dad, then raised his eyes to heaven and prayed. “Dear 
God, make me a great big good man, like my daddy, Amen.” In a moment he was in 
bed and in five minutes asleep. And then the father knelt besides his son’s 
bedside and prayed, “Dear Lord, make me a great big good man like my boy thinks 
I am,”
P Fontaine in ‘More Quotes and Anecdotes’
 
Today’s section of Luke’s gospel tells of the typical ceremonies in the life of 
a Jewish family from which we may learn today. These ceremonies took place at 
the presentation of Jesus in the temple, the ritual by which parents dedicated 
their new born child to God. The Jews believed that a good family life must be 
centred in a deep reverence for God and His law. According to the custom Mary 
and Joseph followed the ritual to dedicate their son Jesus to God. They knew 
their son was the Son of God, yet they followed the traditional ritual. Luke 
mentions that they followed the law, as Jesus comes to fulfil the law. Though 
these ceremonies may seem strange to us today, yet behind them lies a 
recognition of what many have lost sight of, -that a child is a gift of God and 
of all God’s gifts, there is none for which people shall be held more 
accountable. The Gospel mentions Simon a devout follower of the law waiting for 
the revelation promised to him. He
 comes to the temple to pray, just as Jesus is brought to the temple to be 
offered to God. As a result of his listening to the Holy Spirit he came to the 
temple. He recognizes Jesus as the foretold Messiah and picks the infant in his 
arms and thanks God for the revelation given to him and at the same time says 
that he is ready to depart this life in peace. His mission is fulfilled, he has 
seen the saviour of the world. Seeing God and acknowledging Him can be the 
fulfilment of our life as well. Mary and Joseph’s faith is confirmed as they 
listen to this stranger acknowledging and prophesying about their son- Jesus 
would be for the rise and the fall of many. Capping it all he prophesied that 
Mary herself would be pierced with a sword. Mary too would have to make a 
decision about whether to follow her son. Luke also mentions Anna a widow, who 
despite her age had not stopped hoping that she would see the promised Messiah. 
She had come to the temple to pray
 and her prayer gave her strength and faith to recognize Jesus as the promised 
one. She thanks God first and then speaks to others about this child. Nothing 
happens by accident for those who believe. God always fulfils his promises and 
reveals himself in his time. The Gospel does not tell us much about Mary and 
Joseph except that they kept the law and did everything the law required of 
them before they went home to live their ordinary routine lives. In that family 
Jesus grew in age, wisdom and grace. The silence of the family in Nazareth 
should teach us how to meditate in peace and quiet, and to be open to the voice 
of God’s wisdom revealed in daily living.  

Home a Treasure
George was in his seventies. He had never married. Most of his life he was a 
sailor travelling around the oceans of the world. He had no home of his own. 
His nephew Bill always liked his uncle George, so he invited him to live with 
Bill, his wife and five children. It was a mutually agreeable arrangement. 
George now had a home, while Bill’s family could travel the world in 
imagination as they listened to Uncle George recount his experiences. At times 
Bill became bored and discontented with family life. How nice it would be to 
roam the world carefree and footloose. One evening as Uncle George was telling 
of some faraway place, he mentioned a map of a buried treasure. The idea stuck 
in Bill’s mind so that when Uncle George died a few years later, Bill went 
through the old man’s few belonging. Sure enough there was an envelope 
addressed to Bill. It was a map. With shaking fingers and pounding heart he 
tried to figure out where the treasure was
 located. Finally he pinpointed the spot. It was his own home, the very spot he 
was right now. Uncle Bill had truly left him a treasure, the realization that 
his own home, his own family, was a treasure.
Excerpted from ‘Parade Magazine’

“We celebrate the mystery of the child Jesus living with his parents. The tone 
of the celebration is a meditation wholly centered on Christ from which all 
Christian families can learn. Where does the Messiah come from? asked the 
contemporaries of Jesus of Nazareth. They knew nothing of his birth in 
Bethlehem of Judah and they were amazed that one who claimed to be the Messiah 
should come from Galilee. This is why Matthew goes over the journeying of Jesus 
while a child: his career as a displaced person. As a result of the menace of 
Herod, his parents were forced to take refuge in Egypt, where Jesus re-enacted 
the history of the chosen people. Afterwards the family settled in Nazareth, 
-hence the surname ‘Nazarene’. From the time of his birth Jesus was under the 
shadow of the cross. The accounts of the presentation of Jesus in the Temple, 
and of his being found, again in the Temple, after his first Passover at 
Jerusalem, both underline the growth
 ‘in wisdom’ of a child dedicated to his mission from his tender years. In this 
way also Luke proclaims his vocation to suffering and to glory. Jesus will be a 
sign of contradiction – but he will also be the light for the Gentiles and the 
glory of his people Israel. In the temple at the age of twelve, the child Jesus 
anticipates his Easter destiny – lost, but found again on the third day in his 
Father’s house.  -Glenstal Bible Missal

Overcoming the Absence
When an American playwright reflected on his childhood he told the story of how 
his father who was a telephone engineer sometimes worked away from home. At 
first, his father was away from home only a couple of days and this happened 
rarely, but then his absences became more frequent and also lasted longer. 
Eventually, his father never returned home. The telephone engineer had fallen 
in love with long distance and his son had to live his life in the felt absence 
of his father. There was no word, no call, and no contact. Just silence and 
absence. It‘s impossible to have a relationship with someone who is always 
absent and always silent. Usually we overcome our separation from touch through 
phoning or writing. And Christmas has become a traditional time for keeping 
alive old bonds of friendship by a word of greeting. Of course the best way to 
keep alive the love of absent friends and relatives is to visit them. The visit 
is the traditional way of
 conquering distance and overcoming absence: so we talk of “Going to see” 
someone, “showing our face”, and “spending some time together”. And in the 
giving and receiving of hospitality, in being present to each other again, our 
relationship grows and deepens. 
Flor McCarthy in ‘New Sunday and Holy Day Liturgies’’

The Star Trek Family
When the movie Star Trek III was introduced it became an instant success. Much 
of its popularity flowed from its science fiction format and its space age 
technology. But there were other reasons for its success, too. One of these 
reasons is its human appeal to our deep instincts for family, not only for the 
natural family as we know it, but also for other family groups – like parishes, 
civic organizations and work communities. The Enterprise crew of the Star Trek 
movies forms a family. Capt. Kirk is a father-figure who tries to keep the 
family clan together. Mr. Spock, Dr. McCoy, Scotty the engineer, and all the 
crew members belong to the Enterprise family. They are bonded together by more 
than their common work. They share with one another deep feelings of 
friendship, commitment and loyalty. In their own way, today’s readings from 
Scripture also focus on family values. 
Albert Cylwicki in ‘His Word Resounds’

To live with others let us live for others!

 
Fr. Jude Botelho
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PS. The stories, incidents and anecdotes used in the reflections have been 
collected over the years from books as well as from sources over the net and 
from e-mails received. Every effort is made to acknowledge authors whenever 
possible. If you send in stories or illustrations I would be grateful if you 
could quote the source as well so that they can be acknowledged if used in 
these reflections. These reflections are also available on my web site 
www.netforlife. net Thank you.


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