My dear Friends, A female surgeon and her lawyer husband, both friends of mine, had "dumped" their son and daughter into very expensive boarding schools and university hostels, until their children had completed their education. Both son and daughter, left for the US after completion of their education here, in India. The children were never allowed to come home, even during school and college holidays, as both parents lead a very busy working and entertaining life-style and hence, had no time to look after their children.
When this couple retired they travelled on holidays all over the world, but very rarely visited their children in the US. When their children had children and asked their parents to come live with them in the US and help them to raise their kids in the US, again, both parents, excused themselves and said that due to their busy schedules, they were unable to do so. When the husband fell seriously ill, in old age, this couple asked their kids to visit, as they were "missing" them and desperately wanted to see their children and grand-children. The son refused and called me and told me, that he was now "divorced", because he had never seen or experienced the relationship between his own parents and therefore could not cope with any marital stress. He blamed his parents for his divorce and "0" knowledge of being a good dad and husband. The son also told me that he would prefer his parents being "dumped" in an old age home. The daughter also married said she had no time to come down to India and baby-sit her parents. This doctor-lawyer couple, died in an "old age home", missing their beloved children. There are many parents who will gift their property and money, to their favourite child, but complain and expect all their other children, who were gifted nothing, to "look after them, in their old age". Many of us, know of a number of women, who want their sons, all to themselves, even after their sons get married and create a ruckus in the house, and get jealous, if their son, now devotes time to his wife and children. There are many senior citizens who are very, very rude their their d-i-l/s-i-l, grand-children etc., who are not their "favourites". I personally feel, we parents do not need a law forcing our children to look after us, because, if our children see us, looking after our parents, they will do the same for us. Senior citizens need to get a social life of their own and not keep harassing their children. If senior citizens have saved "wisely" and looked after their health, throughout their lives, they can lead a comfortable life style even in their old age. ======================================== >Albert writes"- >Her only problem emotional problem. She was missing her son and his family. >Can we have a law forcing the children to look after the parents in the >ir old age ?
