Well put Bernice. There are relationships and relationships. They are homosexuals who do not sleep with each other or anyone else. I mean sleep in the sense of penetration. Period. I point this out only because sleep has such divergent connotation and denotations. But they live with each other, share meals, hug each other, take care of each other when sick, look good for each other--under one roof, or live separately. I have friends who are scholars and they are married (as in husband and wife) but do not sleep in the same bed. They are heterosexuals. They are not retarded or anything. Perhaps they are old royalty. : ) Perhaps asexual if that matters. Other than that, all married people do not have sex. Some sustain themselves not through sex, nor any form towards procreation in terms of rearing progeny an having some extra. Their minds move differently. They see things others do not. They are not better, only a little different. Then there are the grand male (I am talking of older pedigreed Goans) beings who think they are so liberal but make one sick just seeing them "exfoliate" upon the other sex. Weddings are their haunts as I believe are foreign jaunts.
Some are totally grounded in their being. Some do not take the vow to be faithful to each other (and that too in a Catholic marriage), but stay the course. Note that the above does not in any form imply that they are seeking gratification elsewhere, and if that happens the house does not collapse. And if it happened its not a balls-to-the-wall scenario, as in craving--must have it. Do not ask why. Its pointless to get into that. Not in India per se, but many of us have to come up to snuff with the idea of relationships, in whatever form marriage takes. I also believe that many things we do are choices. One of my colleagues told me last Friday, she believe her 81 year old grandmother is having a grand time. I do not doubt her at all. But imagine what our people would think if their mothers wanted to have some, at say even 70. How about with a much younger guy. Besides the other implications, would they consider the younger person perverted, or would they just be happy for their mothers, or would they feel their mother was cheating on their dead father, or that the man was after the family khazana. Sexuality is a moving constant and there is a constancy to its call. It tell a bit about someone but never much, although people pride themselves on being able to do so. I knew men who had taken the trouble to have sex with eunuchs. One just before he got married. But if one were to suggest that it could be a form of homosexuality, bisexuality or even poly sexuality, they would split someones skull. I believe these are things in their past, unless they are being moved differently now. What happens inside bedrooms is something that should least concern us, unless we wish to emulate and if so there are books, and dictionaries. venantius j pinto > Date: Sun, 19 Jul 2009 14:39:51 +0530 (IST) > From: Bernice Pereira <bernicepere...@yahoo.com> > Subject: [Goanet] (no subject) > > I remember we had a pair of girls in > a hostel in Goa where I was, as a very young girl.? Every night? they'd > land up on the same bed.? They were a butt of a lot of jokes. > > ? ? > For that matter, how many men and women are living absolutely straight > lives (i.e. one man one woman). Is not promiscuity bad? Isn't that > abnormal but yet accepted.? In fact these are the very people who are > idolized by the masses because of their money and glamour.Nobody thinks > of the poor innocent children who are victims of these so called > marriages.. > ? ? What a false world we live in!!! > ? ? ? ? ? ? > >