Frederick Noronha wrote: Selma, Are you suggesting that perfectly fine and nice people could not have disagreements? Don't 'the perfect couples' also end up having messy divorces? I think we all have our egos that come into play every once in a way, or maybe when certain issues are raised. ------------------------------------ Dear FN, In my opinion the cyberworld is the worst form of communication perpertrated onto man and robs us completely of our humanity. It is so devoid of feeling, tactile contact, erased of human gestures and warmth that discussions on cyberforums are not discussions that reflect the true nature of individuals but rather portray us in our worst light. We take affront at the least offence, perceiving that offence to have taken place in a public arena, which sets in motion a series of counter-emails that do not debate the point at all but is an attempt to preserve our dignity in a very undignified manner.
In the years that I have been part of cyber communication, I have never seen two individuals move from the point that they were originally making and embrace another point of view, thus rendering the discussion redundant. I hasten to add, that this is more particular in the male of our species. I have been on women oriented forums which operate on an entirely different level. There is something about the male species which seeks to quarrel endlessly. Of late I have become very disillusioned with the Goan male species. I see him as an entirely unevolved specimen of humanity (sorry if I'm doing a Richard F. Burton here), who feels the incessant need to puff his flagging ego on cyber-forums. I think generally George and Eddie are an exception to that rule and I would prefer it if some fragment of hope was salvaged to reassure me that the Goan male is capable of evolution. Best, selma
