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Dear Carmen,
Further to this email, our car is expected back today and we are
planning a business trip to Panjim tomorrow. As we will be in the
Panjim area, we are wondering if you would have a few minutes to talk
to us both, about your plans, expectations, how far you have gotton at
this point in time, and if there is any help we may render in this
worthy project.
As we said before, we were really sad that we could not be at your
Talk on October 31st, despite making every effort to get to Panjim
later that day, and particularly so after weaving through queues of
cars to get petrol for the trip.
We look forward to your response,
Meanwhile, send our warm regards,
Betsy and Richard
Subject: Fwd: Requests for signatures on the Petition to UNESCO
Dear Carmen,
We wish to thank you very much for sending us the notification of
your talk in Panjim on October 31st, which, very, very sadly, we
were unable to attend as we had two major problems. After managing
to get some petrol in Margao and were on our way to Panjim, our car
developed serious problems and had to be towed to the SAI garage in
Nuven. It has not yet been returned because they found some further
items with major problems. In fact, we have just had a call from SAI
to say that they will not be delivering car until, the earliest,
tomorrow afternoon !!
We are really sad about this, particularly we had been so looking
forward to your talk and to gain some insight into this very
important subject, especially as we have recently retired to Goa,
from Kenya.
We now have a request to make. If, perchance, you happen to be in
our area, Cavelossim / Mobor area, down South, kindly make a stop
over to our home or we could meet you somewhere nearer home at a
place and time convenient to you.We would certainly not want to miss
the opportunity of meeting up with you.
Look forward to your response, meanwhile our warm regards,
Betsy and Richard
Mobile No: 9764329134
9764329137
Subject: Re: Requests for signatures on the Petition to UNESCO
Dear Carmen,
It was great receiving your email and to note that you will be in
Goa on October 28th. Kindly let us know where you will be giving
your talk, in Panjim. We should be able to attend if it is at a
convenient time for travel in this mad Goa traffic. It will be
lovely to meet you before you go to Karnakata.
We could also inform a few of our new-found friends here in Goa and
together make an entertaining event of it.
Rest assured, we will continue to circulate your Petition and
anything connected with it.
Please give our warm regards to Selina, She has been our very good
family friend from Nairobi and we were sorry to lose her and her
talents to the United Kingdom.
Warm regards,
Betsy and Richard
Dears Richard and Betsy
So nice to receive your e-mail and thank you very much for your
support! Much appreciated!
I will be arriving in Goa on 29th October and will be giving a
talk in Panjim on the 31st before I go to Karnakata to take part in
a workshop on tourism. On my return to Goa I hope to continue to
campaign in Goa if the "crab mentality " does not bring me
down. Thanks for the explanation by the way - I too wondered about
the meaning of that phrase!
It has been an uphill struggle to get our community worldwide to
cooperate which is a shame! Together we can achieve much more and
the weight of global public opinion on some issues can be very
powerful ! Yet it is so hard to get Goans to take action!
Thanks again for your support and keep in touch!
With warm regards
Carmen
Hi Carmen,
Happy to say, we are forwarding this message too to the 99 email
ID addressees that we have around the world, which includes the
Goan Welfare Society, Nairobi who, in turn, have circulated it to
addressees in their huge email IDs book. Good luck with your
endeavours to get the Dudhsagar Falls and its environs declared
UNESCO's World Heritage Site.
We enjoyed our recent trip to Hampi, another UNESCO site and the
Falls on our return train journeys from Hospet. Our family from
the U.K. treated us to a four nights/five days trip. Daughter,
Cynthia, is married to John McDonnell, the current M.P. in the
Labour Party for Hayes and Harlington, Middx..
We are recent retirees in Goa, having arrived here from Kenya in
June, 2008. We are enjoying our stay immensely, because of the
affordable cost of living ... but are certainly having
difficulties understanding the mentality of our Goans around the
world, through Goanet and GoaBookClub. The dialogue is certainly
beyond our understanding ... and why?
We recently decided to contribute and respond to some of the items
that we felt unhappy about and are attaching this one, FYI.
Warm regards,
Betsy and Richard
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Hi Frederick,
Thanks. We think this is a great article. We do love your
affirmation of VRR,
his achievements, in particular that he is still actively involved
with
all that goes with editing, his desire for higher standards, and
last, but not
the least, your remark that you like to interact with such
expats ... and we pose
the question ... And why not?
We also appreciate your remark, wishing the Goan society the
ability to treat
its senior citizens with more respect! We totally agree with this
sentiment.
Sadly, we have observed that there is, many a times, a total lack
of this important
ingredient in our society! Guess if our elders did not indulge in
the Crab
Mentality, our youth, our children and our Grandchilden would
emulate their
Grandparents / Parents.
Incidentally, we both have been intrigued by the frequent use of
the phrase
'Crab Mentality'. In our endeavours to understand this better, we
consulted
our Dictionary and it confirmed our understanding of the phrase !!
See below.
It certainly makes interesting reading.
Richard and Betsy Nunes
Crab mentality
of thinking best described by the phrase "if I can't have it,
neither can you."
The metaphor refers to a pot of crabs. Individually, the crabs
could easily
escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a
useless "king of the hill" competition (or
sabotage) which prevents any from escaping and ensures their
collective demise. The analogy in human behavior is that of a
group that will attempt to "pull down" (negate or diminish the
importance of) any member who achieves success beyond the others,
out of envy,conspiracy or competitive feelings.
Crab mentality, sometimes referred to as crabs in the bucket,
describes a way
This term is broadly associated with short-sighted, non-
constructive thinking
rather than a unified, long-term, constructive mentality. It is
also often used colloquially
in reference to individuals or communities attempting to "escape"
a so-called "underprivileged life," but kept from doing so by
others attempting to ride upon their coat-tails or those who
simply resent their success.[1]
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